Well I don't know if they teach that in a class, id say you have to go ask a good hunter if you want to learn how to catch game.
If you have any friends who are good with girls, you could learn from them. Just observe, note things down and try to apply for yourself. Fake it till you make it
Stop being so harsh on yoruself and negative. you're also very young. Build confidence, love yourself, and girls will fall in love with your personality. even if you don't end up dating for a while it's not as big of a deal as this society makes it to be. and everyone is inexperienced at 18. Don't be so negative - at least be realistic.
first you need to be more confident second everyone have soulmate third the day will come you gonna find it just stop looking because it's is leap of faith good luck
Sounds to me you just lack self-confidence. Also, number 6 can't really be changed as time goes by. Gaining experience can be obtained by being in relationships.
don't worry a guy like you will end up with an amazing partner for example I know many boys like you who have started gaining relation ships and remember you are not too young and will most likely find some one for you.
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1.) You'll get comfortable but it's very difficult. 2.) Not many people are. 3.) Everyone should. 4.) Confidence. 5.) OCD. I still do. 6.) Everyone was. You'll learn. 7.) Everyone is. Just have to get comfortable with it.
"I am shy and awkward around girls because of previous failures at dating"
start talking to more people everyday. get a job in customer service if you have to so you can learn to talk to people. social skills and confidence are LEARNED.
" I am not the naturally good looking" LIFT. go to the gym and clean up your shit diet. sleep enough so you won't get eye bags. get a nice body, learn to dress well, and groom yourself regularly to look better than 90 percent of guys.
"I overthink things" you lack social skills. go out and learn to read people. watch you tube channels like charisma on command. read books like how to win friends and influence people. learn about body language. go online and LEARN.
"I dont believe I can succeed." set a goal for yourself today. and some bullshit i mean something worth while. and fight tooth or nail to achieve that thing and you will gain CONFIDENCE. I suggest lifting. start making small wins and meditate on the positive.
"I lack experience" Go out and get some. no one is born with experience so dont make excuses. get out and fuck things up so you can learn from those mistake. learning from our mistakes is experience.
" I am terrible at Flirting"
Read books on how to do just that. Read the art of seduction by robert greene. read more about how to flirt with girls and read books on social skills. we have covered this.
all in all you are making excuses and you are just making yourself weak by letting yourself do this. Im not trying to be harsh for the sake of it, but telling you to "be yourself" won't help you. go out and start improving yourself today and you'll be a lot happier.
on top of this, do you want to ultimate tool to help you?
Some aspects of self-improvement I have done. Like I used to be a dick to people, now i'm not. But I have done some of the things that you mentioned above, I just haven't gotten the results I want to see. It's obvious that I need to change something.
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Hit the weights bro. Its hard to feel insecure when you look like this
I do workout. My problem is communicating
Id say if its really bad, take classes or courses in communication. No shame in that
Yeah, It's not that I can't talk to people, it's that I can't flirt with cute girls
Well I don't know if they teach that in a class, id say you have to go ask a good hunter if you want to learn how to catch game.
If you have any friends who are good with girls, you could learn from them. Just observe, note things down and try to apply for yourself. Fake it till you make it
My friends have been successful in their own way of dating, one that may not apply to me.
You can still take something from their approach man. You have to try
These are things you could work on, all hope is not gone. There are also men who are decent looking but have hot girlfriends - explain that.
But what do I do?
Stop being so harsh on yoruself and negative. you're also very young. Build confidence, love yourself, and girls will fall in love with your personality. even if you don't end up dating for a while it's not as big of a deal as this society makes it to be. and everyone is inexperienced at 18. Don't be so negative - at least be realistic.
I just don’t know how to get noticed and have a REAL chance with a girl?
Your only 18, work on yourself before getting back on the saddle.
first you need to be more confident
second everyone have soulmate
third the day will come you gonna find it just stop looking because it's is leap of faith good luck
Sounds to me you just lack self-confidence. Also, number 6 can't really be changed as time goes by. Gaining experience can be obtained by being in relationships.
don't worry a guy like you will end up with an amazing partner for example I know many boys like you who have started gaining relation ships and remember you are not too young and will most likely find some one for you.
1.) You'll get comfortable but it's very difficult.
2.) Not many people are.
3.) Everyone should.
4.) Confidence.
5.) OCD. I still do.
6.) Everyone was. You'll learn.
7.) Everyone is. Just have to get comfortable with it.
you can fix everything here on this list. just go out and fix it.
How?
"I am shy and awkward around girls because of previous failures at dating"
start talking to more people everyday. get a job in customer service if you have to so you can learn to talk to people. social skills and confidence are LEARNED.
" I am not the naturally good looking"
LIFT. go to the gym and clean up your shit diet. sleep enough so you won't get eye bags. get a nice body, learn to dress well, and groom yourself regularly to look better than 90 percent of guys.
"I overthink things"
you lack social skills. go out and learn to read people. watch you tube channels like charisma on command. read books like how to win friends and influence people. learn about body language. go online and LEARN.
"I dont believe I can succeed."
set a goal for yourself today. and some bullshit i mean something worth while. and fight tooth or nail to achieve that thing and you will gain CONFIDENCE. I suggest lifting. start making small wins and meditate on the positive.
"I lack experience"
Go out and get some. no one is born with experience so dont make excuses. get out and fuck things up so you can learn from those mistake. learning from our mistakes is experience.
" I am terrible at Flirting"
Read books on how to do just that. Read the art of seduction by robert greene. read more about how to flirt with girls and read books on social skills. we have covered this.
all in all you are making excuses and you are just making yourself weak by letting yourself do this. Im not trying to be harsh for the sake of it, but telling you to "be yourself" won't help you. go out and start improving yourself today and you'll be a lot happier.
on top of this, do you want to ultimate tool to help you?
I already do those things
sure you do. how long have you been doing those things and how religiously?
I've been doing most of those things for years now. I don't lack social skills around everyone, just girls I find attractive.
than thats what you need to work on.
and really? years? sure bro whatever you say. if you really were focusing years on self improvement you wouldn't be where are now.
Some aspects of self-improvement I have done. Like I used to be a dick to people, now i'm not. But I have done some of the things that you mentioned above, I just haven't gotten the results I want to see. It's obvious that I need to change something.
But you said you were in love with someone else. You really should clear your RAM and start over
I kind of gave up on that
And what? You didn't finish your sentence
I did but I gave up her because she wasn’t going to initiate anything with me
Oh, ok. THat makes more sense. Are you doing anything fun tonight?
Visiting the doctor
He's the most magnificent man you could ever meet.
At that age all I thought was how to skip homework and play, until you reach late 20s I don't think being single is a big deal
I was the same way and didn’t get a girlfriend till 21
Well I don't know how to get one.
Yeah it was by chance only, never expected it , just happened
Well you were probably more lucky than I will be
A person not natrally being good looking is not a reason for them to not be in a relationship.
love-thy-self all else will follow :)
How?
By loving yourself more. Do what makes you happy.
Well i'm worried about being attractive
it all takes practice and effort!
Number one I can totally relate too.
Most guys ARE inexperienced at 18...
Hey, stop stealing my bad qualities.
Better be single and happy than broke
Enjoy being single.