This mytake is response to another take Yes, Racial Dating Preferences Are Racist by @Anonymous
You Can't Control Who You're Attracted To
A person cannot help who they are attracted to. These sorts of preferences are not something you are conscious of. It is what it is. If you're not attracted to black people, It's not your fault it is part of your nature. You can't force someone to like you.
Like Attracts Like
If we're in unknown town, we feel more comfortable with people sharing a mutual hometown. Same applies for dating preferences. It is normal to seek out people for dating and relationships who share similar experiences. People associate certain races and religions with certain cultures and if that specific race or religion is abstract or significantly different from their own, it can create an element of incompatibility. This does not make dating or a relationship possible.
Racism is About Not Treating People Equally
Prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior. (Oxford DIctionary). If you're not dating girls out of your race then that doesn't mean you're a racist. Racism is about treating races unequally. There's a difference between rejecting job to someone because of their race and not dating because you don't find them attractive (as explained in the first point) After all dating someone is a personal preference and rejecting job is a social thing.
Stereotypes Exist for a Reason
Here are some common stereotypes:
Excessive philanderers, fear relationship commitment, drug lords, ghetto type generates prone to crime and violence, feverish worshippers of hip hop/urban culture, uneducated and unintelligent, absent fathers, machismo and misogynistic, and possess overly large penises.
Excessively nerdy, asexual, non masculine in persona and physicality, petite and child-like, too quiet, and possess rather small penises.
Middle Eastern/Arabic Men:
Dim witted, uneducated and unintelligent, prone to aggression and violence, overly possessive, excessively masculine, machismo and misogynistic, extremely high sex drives and wonderful in bed.
Small penises, treat women poorly, high intelligence, completely controlled by family and cultural traditions and practices, little to no sex vibe, bad personal hygiene, often smelling of bad body odor and curry based spices.
White (Anglo Saxon) Men
Superiority complex, self-important and full of entitlement, complacent, lazy, apathetic, bland and boring, average in bed, and unaware of their own stupidity.
Absent fathers, uneducated and unintelligent, machismo and misogynistic, love to be a part of gangs and are often involved in criminal activity, insanely jealous and possessive, and prone to illegal immigration activities.
(I don't claim them to be true. I found them commonly on internet)
Steriotypes do exist for a reason. Being Indian, I can say Indian Men's stereotype partially true for many. I do have some traits from it not all. And it is fine if a girl finds those trends unattractive. That doesn't make you racist. It is just your personal choice.
Sex is Better With Loved Ones
We're familiar with this. Sexual experience is much better if you're having it, someone you're attracted to. Referring to my first point, even if a black guy has BBC and you're not attracted to him, you're less likely to enjoy sex.
Using Same Logic For Other Habits
If we consider other hobbies as well, it gets really simple to judge which is wrong. Here's an example is given by OlderAndWiser
I refuse to date a smoker, so I am tobaccophobic (even though all smokers are not alike.) I refuse to date a woman who is not intelligent so I am stupidphobic (while some are not as stupid as others.) And I am not interested in dating a woman less than 5' 0" tall so I am midgetphobic (but mot all are munchkins.)