Dating a 10 When You're Not

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Dating a 10 When You're Not

The couple pictured above quite literally won a contest called "Punching Above Your Weight," for the most mismatched couple. According to an article on 2 Oceans Vibe, "Kate Cathcart is blonde, good looking, has a perfect smile and a great figure. Darren Donaghey on the other hand, well… he’s Darren. The pair have been together for years and are planning to use the Greek holiday prize as their honeymoon. Darren says he constantly gets disapproving looks from strangers when they are seen in public together. It’s not uncommon for Kate to be hit on by other guys when he is sitting right next to her at a bar, but Darren is used to it by now."

Now most guys and girls looking at the photo would be blind not to notice the differences in their looks as most of the voters clearly made note of and I think, if you're honest, you'd probably assume above him having some great personality, and her just loving that above his looks, that he MUST have money, because that's the only way someone "like him," could land someone "like her."

This sentiment often comes from ugly and attractive people alike. It's like people view it as literally offensive that anyone hot could possibly like anyone not. I've seen polls on this very topic on GaG. And here as Darren says, people openly flirt with his wife in front of him which is what a lot of people do to couples they personally feel don't deserve to be with one another the way they are because they feel like hot people should be with hot people, and not, with not people.


The thing about dating that hot person when you're not, is knowing that if you break up, they will have no problems finding someone else. It's knowing that every day someone is trying to hit on them and 10 times a day, they are forced to have to resist those people. It's knowing people will be openly flirting with your significant other and asking you point blank why you're together. It's friends inquiring in a really offensive way how you could have possibly landed that. It's people assuming the only way you could get someone like that is if you're rich or some other superficial reason. It's people saying to you that they hope your future baby looks like the other person.

I don't really believe the BS about how the unattractive person just has to be strong and not let ego or jealously get in the way. This isn't one person every once in a while trying to wreck what you have or thinking you a turd on the ground, it's knowing you have to constantly deal with an outside world that demeans you and assumes you have nothing to offer if not your looks. How can that not F with your self-esteem? On top of that, you honestly know the dynamics of your situation. There is power in money, there is power in having power over someone, and there is a power dynamics with looks. If you do not have the upper hand or at the very least an equal hand, not only society, but you know to some extent that you're going to need to work 10 times harder on your end to keep what you have because it's not really their loss if you break up. You know that if you make that announcement, people will assume that it was inevitable.

Dating a 10 When You're Not
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