Hmm, I think that a lot of this only really applies if your relationship is controlling or constricting... A healthy one should enable you to do a lot of the same things. However, this was still an interesting take :)
I actually tried to make it appeal to both sides, singles by choice and not by choice. I just hope that people who are enjoying their single lifes, as well as someone who just broke up with their SO or people who are having a hard time finding someone can feel a little better about themselves and their single life after reading this :)
Less stress was always my reasoning but hmmm i never thought of the more time for friendships. Makes sense though because when my friends get a boyfriend they disappear outta no where
yes its true being a single is so good cause you have no heartache you can do anything that you want you can hang with your friends and have time also with your family ;)
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Yeah being a single female is great... since society pretty much caters to you in every way and you can use the false promise of sex to get guys to do pretty much everything for you including giving you free shit.
Being a single guy is not "great" unless we have money or look like Ryan Reynolds or both.
It's really great. 100% agree. I must admit. YOu wake up in the morning whenever you want. The bathroom is available. You prepare the breakfast for yourself, essentially do what you want. The price to pay is quite small compared to the benefits.
That's true but there's no telling when you will be in a relationship. You never want to hop into something that's toxic just because the person is there.
They may not be. It's ok to be content in whatever stage you're in. In fact, I think it's healthy to look at the positives in this and any other place one may be in.
I was going to opinionate until I saw you wrote the very thing I wanted to say. I wonder what's going to be written on all they're head stones when they die...". Here lies someone you never knew " etc... LMAO...
@Lovetolearn47. Well , not everyone has an easy time with doing what they're designed to do from birth. Considering they're fate and all , although I don't believe in being content and settling for what you're not ultimately designed for being a great choice towards the end of our destiny. The 13 out of 1ooo, ooo ways listed how to do what you're not designed for is a abomination before our creator.
@Djaay I must *respectfully* say, I personally do not believe in a creator that I am obliged to please, or that designed me to be a certain way. And you are also entitled to believe whatever you wish. That said, I'm not advocating trying to force oneself into feeling content when you honestly desire something different. I'm speaking from my own personal experience here, that it is better to find whatever you can be grateful for, in any lousy situation you may find yourself in, bc gratitude changes everything and makes whatever you DO have feel like "enough." It's a much happier way to live.
Yeah, I get you, lots of freedom, but you miss out on a hell of a lot, too.
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If all these things make being single so great then why have I never really been happy since my ex left me. I was the happiest I've ever been in a relationship. Honestly being single sucks.
Being single is the best thing you can’t do. You can always have friends with benefits y’know. Dating is pointless, it only attracts bad attention and in the end never works out and leaves you with a broken heart and more issues then you had before.
@Whaler If you think dating is pointless then that's your opinion. A friend with benefits is just a no-go for me. Sex would be nice these days for me but I just wanna have it with someone I love. The fact I DON'T have that someone (and probably won't based on my track record, heh) is what bugs me.
@MysteriousDarkness just because I’m 15 doesn’t mean anything. Look at the statistics, divorce rates are at there highest. Along with that today’s generation has given ‘love’ a new name. They’re bound on sex and don’t care about the others feelings. There’s less children without fathers and mothers then back in the day, and don’t get me wrong, this is mainly pertaining to marriage but that’s usually the point of dating, to find the someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I can understand where you’re coming from however on that you don’t have much experience, and don’t take that the wrong way but you don’t know what the repercussions of dating are. You’re constantly on a schedule for the other person, you need to do a lot for that person, I can understand that some people enjoy that, however I’m not one of those people and I know plenty others aren’t.
@MysteriousDarkness well for the most part again, looking at statistics most drug users or alcoholics and those who do illegal things either don’t have one of their parents or lost them at an early age. I’m mainly talking about single parenting too.
Even a toddler could make that out. If you’re really going to attack me for not proofreading my comments that’s fine however please understand that it’s a common mistake and autocorrect helps it happen more often.
@Whaler Um, no. I asked you a question because I was confused by what you meant. Sounds like you meant "can", not "can't", I can see it now. Also, there's not much I really can or want to gain out of attacking you, so if you want to get pissy about a simple request for clarification, then go right ahead. It's no skin off my back.
@Whaler You are still only 15 years of age. You think everyone of today's generaton are the same and are just into sex which is ridiculous. I am going to give you a hypothetical scenario. Lets say at some point after high school you move out and live by yourself for a few years. Your friends are happily in a relationship, happily engaged, or happily married and you are single. Lets say they are all monogamous. They could be in the military, going to school, working or going to school and working. They say you are not the only friend in their life. They say they have other friends and their own family, their boyfriend's/girlfriend's, fiancé's/fiancé's, husband's/wife's friends and family to hangout with. What would you do then? If you want to be single then be single.
@MysteriousDarkness It’s ignorant to believe that my age defines who I am, what I think, or what I want. I could care less about sex, people have such high expectations for it and hold it to a godly level. I don’t see any reason to do that. Age doesn’t define a persons maturity, what does however is the experiences they’ve had. I’ve seen and been through so many things in my life I don’t care what happens anymore, to your hypothetical situation, I would continue to stay single. Maybe a one night stand every now and then but never dating. When I get older the first thing I’m trying is to get into a college with a scholarship, if not then military, if that doesn’t work out then try getting famous online, and if that doesn’t work then into the porn industry. I don’t care what happens with me, just need to do what you have to do to get by.
@MysteriousDarkness I don’t care what happens to me, but if things go wrong for another person I’ll be the first to help them. My burdens, rather my history isn’t going to ever get fixed, so I would prefer to help others with theirs.
@MysteriousDarkness no point to it, both trust issues and not wanting to waste others time. And for people who I only tell the littlest bits to I always start ignoring and stop talking to the person. Why lose more friends?
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Hmm, I think that a lot of this only really applies if your relationship is controlling or constricting... A healthy one should enable you to do a lot of the same things. However, this was still an interesting take :)
Yes!!!
This is for people who are single by choice. Im single because I am undesirable to all women. And living like this is hell
I actually tried to make it appeal to both sides, singles by choice and not by choice. I just hope that people who are enjoying their single lifes, as well as someone who just broke up with their SO or people who are having a hard time finding someone can feel a little better about themselves and their single life after reading this :)
Less stress was always my reasoning but hmmm i never thought of the more time for friendships. Makes sense though because when my friends get a boyfriend they disappear outta no where
yes its true being a single is so good cause you have no heartache you can do anything that you want you can hang with your friends and have time also with your family ;)
Yeah being a single female is great... since society pretty much caters to you in every way and you can use the false promise of sex to get guys to do pretty much everything for you including giving you free shit.
Being a single guy is not "great" unless we have money or look like Ryan Reynolds or both.
I guess if you have a really great relationship then its good
But from all my friends i see most of it is drama and problems
Its hard to say if single is better or not. It all depends on a lot of things
It's really great. 100% agree. I must admit. YOu wake up in the morning whenever you want. The bathroom is available. You prepare the breakfast for yourself, essentially do what you want. The price to pay is quite small compared to the benefits.
Yeah it's great and all, but really for how long? There comes a point in time where every person needs more than just friendship to feel content.
That's true but there's no telling when you will be in a relationship. You never want to hop into something that's toxic just because the person is there.
sure, but remeber it's just not an option for everyone.
I disagree, I'm less healthy single. I'm more likely to order a pizza when no one is around to judge me
Nice one but loneliness is such a waste of time, you need someone in your life to lay on and share your secret with
True...
Well said
The only ones with the reasons to be single are just trying to justifying in their own mind why they're so lonely. LOL
They may not be. It's ok to be content in whatever stage you're in. In fact, I think it's healthy to look at the positives in this and any other place one may be in.
I was going to opinionate until I saw you wrote the very thing I wanted to say. I wonder what's going to be written on all they're head stones when they die...". Here lies someone you never knew " etc... LMAO...
@Djaay haha I'm glad that resonated with you too.
@Lovetolearn47. Well , not everyone has an easy time with doing what they're designed to do from birth. Considering they're fate and all , although I don't believe in being content and settling for what you're not ultimately designed for being a great choice towards the end of our destiny. The 13 out of 1ooo, ooo ways listed how to do what you're not designed for is a abomination before our creator.
@Djaay I must *respectfully* say, I personally do not believe in a creator that I am obliged to please, or that designed me to be a certain way. And you are also entitled to believe whatever you wish. That said, I'm not advocating trying to force oneself into feeling content when you honestly desire something different. I'm speaking from my own personal experience here, that it is better to find whatever you can be grateful for, in any lousy situation you may find yourself in, bc gratitude changes everything and makes whatever you DO have feel like "enough." It's a much happier way to live.
@Lovetolearn47 - something clear within a whole bunch of gobbledygook. :)
For both genders, gratitude, appreciation, kindness, respect. For sure.
is this written by a 12 year old? this shit lame. I do agree that being single is way better but this is a shit list
then do you have other points to add? what would you change?
Perfectly said! (However, I like to keep my room clean).
Love being single, it would take a VERY VERY special woman to change my mind!
Yeah, I get you, lots of freedom, but you miss out on a hell of a lot, too.
If all these things make being single so great then why have I never really been happy since my ex left me. I was the happiest I've ever been in a relationship. Honestly being single sucks.
So true!
Better off without a wife.
Some reasons seem very crappy to me. I do agree being single is awesome, but for more powerful reasons to me.
1. Peace of mind
2. FREEDOM
Being Single is good as long as you have a friends with benefits lol
I think that's what I would want
Yeah, no. Sorry, but I respectfully disagree. It's not fun at all to not have someone to share experiences with, or snuggle with when you need it.
I'm sorry, but being single isn't great at all.
Being single is the best thing you can’t do. You can always have friends with benefits y’know. Dating is pointless, it only attracts bad attention and in the end never works out and leaves you with a broken heart and more issues then you had before.
@Whaler You are only 15 and in high school so give in like until you are 25.
@Whaler If you think dating is pointless then that's your opinion. A friend with benefits is just a no-go for me. Sex would be nice these days for me but I just wanna have it with someone I love. The fact I DON'T have that someone (and probably won't based on my track record, heh) is what bugs me.
@MysteriousDarkness just because I’m 15 doesn’t mean anything. Look at the statistics, divorce rates are at there highest. Along with that today’s generation has given ‘love’ a new name. They’re bound on sex and don’t care about the others feelings. There’s less children without fathers and mothers then back in the day, and don’t get me wrong, this is mainly pertaining to marriage but that’s usually the point of dating, to find the someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I can understand where you’re coming from however on that you don’t have much experience, and don’t take that the wrong way but you don’t know what the repercussions of dating are. You’re constantly on a schedule for the other person, you need to do a lot for that person, I can understand that some people enjoy that, however I’m not one of those people and I know plenty others aren’t.
@Whaler please explain how you think less children with a father and or mother is bad since you made it seem like it is bad
@MysteriousDarkness well for the most part again, looking at statistics most drug users or alcoholics and those who do illegal things either don’t have one of their parents or lost them at an early age. I’m mainly talking about single parenting too.
@Whaler Do you even realize that less children without a father and mother means more children have their father and mother
@MysteriousDarkness excuse that, I don’t proofread my comments. That’s a mistake, it was meant to say more. I appologize.
@Whaler Hey, I'm a little confused by what you mean by "Being single is the best thing you can’t do." Mind clearing that up for me a little?
Even a toddler could make that out. If you’re really going to attack me for not proofreading my comments that’s fine however please understand that it’s a common mistake and autocorrect helps it happen more often.
@Whaler Um, no. I asked you a question because I was confused by what you meant. Sounds like you meant "can", not "can't", I can see it now. Also, there's not much I really can or want to gain out of attacking you, so if you want to get pissy about a simple request for clarification, then go right ahead. It's no skin off my back.
Sorry for that, I misinterpreted the tone you had When writing.
@Whaler Ah, alrighty. Fair enough.
@Whaler You are still only 15 years of age. You think everyone of today's generaton are the same and are just into sex which is ridiculous. I am going to give you a hypothetical scenario.
Lets say at some point after high school you move out and live by yourself for a few years. Your friends are happily in a relationship, happily engaged, or happily married and you are single. Lets say they are all monogamous. They could be in the military, going to school, working or going to school and working. They say you are not the only friend in their life. They say they have other friends and their own family, their boyfriend's/girlfriend's, fiancé's/fiancé's, husband's/wife's friends and family to hangout with. What would you do then? If you want to be single then be single.
@MysteriousDarkness It’s ignorant to believe that my age defines who I am, what I think, or what I want. I could care less about sex, people have such high expectations for it and hold it to a godly level. I don’t see any reason to do that. Age doesn’t define a persons maturity, what does however is the experiences they’ve had. I’ve seen and been through so many things in my life I don’t care what happens anymore, to your hypothetical situation, I would continue to stay single. Maybe a one night stand every now and then but never dating. When I get older the first thing I’m trying is to get into a college with a scholarship, if not then military, if that doesn’t work out then try getting famous online, and if that doesn’t work then into the porn industry. I don’t care what happens with me, just need to do what you have to do to get by.
@Whaler With the attitude of not caring what happens to yourself or anything anymore proves you should stay single.
@MysteriousDarkness
I don’t care what happens to me, but if things go wrong for another person I’ll be the first to help them. My burdens, rather my history isn’t going to ever get fixed, so I would prefer to help others with theirs.
@Whaler You need to fix your problems first.
@MysteriousDarkness no point to it, both trust issues and not wanting to waste others time. And for people who I only tell the littlest bits to I always start ignoring and stop talking to the person. Why lose more friends?
I don’t see how being single automatically means you have more friends.