Why Don't Girls Like You? You're a NICE GUY!

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Why Don't Girls Like You? You're a NICE GUY!

You're a nice guy, SOOOOOOOO NICE! And the "girls" don't like you. WHY? Why, oh why, oh whiny whine whine why?

You are not a nice guy. You THINK you're a nice guy, but you're not. You're a whiny, entitled bitch-boy. Real nice guys do NOT treat women like vending machines, where you drop in a handful of "nice" and pussy pops out for you. When you think you are somehow entitled to some pussy just because you're "nice", that is exactly what you are doing.

You were about to lie to me and tell me it's not about getting pussy. It IS about getting pussy, because if it weren't about getting pussy , you would not be upset that the last 95,000 women you dropped a load of "nice" on treated you like a beloved sister. You'd be THRILLED. But they won't go to the "next level". Of course, "next level" means pussy, what ELSE would it mean, because what ELSE are you not getting "from" them?

It's not about "being loved", either. Being "friendzoned" IS being loved, but there's never going to be any pussy involved. Yes, pussy plus love is best, but right now, you can get love without pussy and THAT is what is really bothering you.

Of course, you could be the lowest of the bitch-boys, the creepy bitch-boy, who gets so obviously bent out of shape that once he is denied pussy he loses out even on a potential friendship. So, you might be losing both ways, either way, I'm addressing all of you.

Why Don't Girls Like You? You're a NICE GUY!

Most women do not actually sell their pussy. Some do, and I don't mean outright prostitution. I mean women who will fuck on the basis of some guy dropping something on them that they like. However, "nice" is almost never the currency of buying pussy. "Bad" can buy pussy. "Rich" can buy pussy. "Exciting" can buy pussy. You are none of these, so you try to use "nice" to buy pussy. The problem is that it's outright evil to even approach women in such a fashion. It also won't work. Sadly, the women who keep falling for "bad boys" really are selling themselves. They're selling themselves cheap because they see themselves as less than fully human. They treat themselves like property.

IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO RESCUE THEM. You are not their daddies. Anyway, if you did rescue them, it would be creepy and evil to then try to have a "relationship" with them. When you try to buy pussy with "nice", you are attempting to offer something that you think someone has a shortage of. What would that be? Basic human dignity. Men who try to trade "nice" for pussy almost never target the happy, successful women who have a great relationship history. They go for women who look vulnerable. They try to VICTIMIZE those women. Offering heroin as an incentive is every bit as much victimization as threatening beatings as a punishment.

Why are you trying to buy pussy with "nice"? It's probably because you have no fucking clue how relationships actually work. Why? Who cares? We start any journey from where we are, not from where we used to be.

You have choices.

1) Do what you are always doing. Get what you have always had.

2) Be really stupid and try to become a pick-up artist just to get pussy.

3) Fix it.

Presuming your choice is 3. You first need to work on you. There is plenty of non-pussy love available. You're going to have to honestly admit that you want love PLUS pussy. Love plus pussy is wonderful! We can use flowery language like "romantic love" or "conjugal bliss", but the nuts and bolts come down to love plus pussy.

Why Don't Girls Like You? You're a NICE GUY!

Step 1: You can't buy it. You CANNOT BUY IT! You can't drop a pile of "nice" and expect a woman to make you her everything in exchange. It is not a transaction. This kind of relationship is the MOST SEXUAL THING IN THE UNIVERSE! You don't receive sex, you DO sex. What I mean is that this is the creation of a new entity of which each of you is a part but which greater than the two of you combined. That can't be bought. It can't be earned. You do not deserve it. NOBODY deserves it. Stop whining about not having it.

I'm not getting metaphysical. A real relationship creates a unit. You can each be autonomous and have full identities within that unit, but the unit has its own identity and dynamic in addition to the individuals'. Think about that. No, THINK about it. You can't buy that any more than you can buy getting in better condition. You could pay for a gym and a trainer, but YOU still have to do the exercise. A relationship is not a reward, it's an activity.

Step 2: Stop looking for victims. Start looking for partners. You are attracted to women who are acutely or chronically vulnerable. Stop. If you really feel the need to be Captain Save-a-Ho, go for it, but stop expecting any payback. Do it for its own sake and let them go on their way with their lives. You've become a girlfriend. Rock out on it, but don't expect it to be anything else. Otherwise, vulnerable women are not to be your "recruiting pool".

Step 3: Figure out WHAT you want from a relationship, be concrete. Be specific. Be honest. If all you really want is "companionship", get a dog. If you don't have the guts to admit that sex is part of the deal, you don't deserve a relationship with sex in it. Be honest to yourself about yourself.

Where you go from there is up to you, but it would probably also be a good idea to stop being haphazard. Stop trying to swoop down on women who probably aren't looking for a relationship at all. Start being DELIBERATE.

That might mean networking, using a local dating service, finding a local "meetup", using an online service, but this opinion piece has gone on long enough. Think of it as a job search. When you are buying something, you just offer the money and get the goods. When you are trying to get a job, you actually have to put in some work. It won't fall on your lap out of nowhere.

Why Don't Girls Like You? You're a NICE GUY!
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