> Your expectations are too high for someone of your caliber
My only expectation is that they talk to me, and 99% of women can't even do that.
> You’re ugly
I wouldn't say that, but I must be down right intimidating, since most women can't be in my presence for more than a few minutes without showing signs of nervousness, anxiety or just fleeing the area.
> You’re creepy and fucking weird
Creepy AND fucking weird... probably, so I'll grant you that one. However there MUST be women out there with a werewolf/hairy monster fetish.
> You’re a pussy, flat out
No. You don't scare me, no woman does, but do you know what DOES scare me? False rape accusations and landing in jail
> Fun fact: sitting on G@G all day bitching about how single you are is not going to make pussy and cock fall from the sky.
The sad part is, they are too high up on the "woest be me" horse to accept the truth, or so down in the dumps of self pity this isn't even English to them.
You made the best point of all, the most obvious and easily fixable point... that its the person. Thats right, YOU.
Fucking brat society conforms people to blame everything but themselves. Its so bad, even fucking atheists blame a God they dont even believe in for their dating woes lol
The last one is the only one I can recognize myself in, however the reason I never make a move makes sense to me. I know I suck. I never had even a kiss in my life and Im old enough to have kids. And since I know that if I approached women I would get shot down constantly, I feel like its better to seem like uninterested, than to seem like an undesirable loser (which is what I actually am). I don't understand women and I am not capable of having any kind of conversation except friendly. A guy like me approaching girls would be like a guy who never even saw a pool in his life jumping into a wild river and expecting to swim. Its just never going to happen
@dancing_in_nebulas Women are not attracted to me. Its something specific to me. Much uglier guys get girls easily. And not just looks, in every aspect of life, there are guys who do worse than me, yet girls want them, but not me
The reason you think that way and the reason you've never even had a kiss is because you never make a move. You assume that girls aren't attracted to you, but since you've never made a move you'd never know, because unless you're really good looking they aren't gonna tell you so. They're afraid to do so themselves. At some point every guy has had to make their first approach/move having never done so before. The only way to learn is by doing it, and the more you do it the better you get at it. Most guys get shot down a lot because when you're the one approaching and pursuing, which most guys are, then it's just a numbers game. Even the best looking guys get shot down, just less. Those ugly guys you see who get girls will get shot down a ton - they just don't care because they know that they'll eventually find a girl who likes them. They know that every "no" they get from a woman brings them closer to the girl who'll say "yes".
@dancing_in_nebulas Used to be, not anymore that much. My friends are normal, couple of them are even a bit of womanizers, girls love them. @englisc its not like I never tried with any girl in my life, but the ones I did try with, weren't interested, and the other ones also don't seem to be, since I have friends who are desirable to women, I can see how women behave when they like somebody. And after 29 years of no girl ever liking me, even 1% its hard for me to believe that any girl on this planet would be with me (because that girl probably doesn't exist)
29 is still pretty young, you seem to over analyze by how you are describing everything. I over think and it has stopped me meeting lots of guys due to constant self doubt and pre judging the situation beforehand.
Loosen up, get a nice look together for yourself and go out having a free heart and mind.
It is super difficult to date in general these days due to the "swipe for mr/mrs right," in which there is a presumption that the perfect person will magically walk around the corner - you know, with glitter and the heavens opening around them.
It rarely works that way. Men do better when building a list of women, (hence your womanizer friends,) not seaking out just one.
When I go out, I am usually girl #4 or #15 even of numbers men have collected, then they go through the list the next day and filter out which women are their tops and message them.
If none respond, you just collect more and have a good time doing it!
@dancing_in_nebulas What the hell that sounds like something my brothers would do, 😂 no offense. Collect numbers and then sort through them? Oh yeah, that screams I want a real relationship all right.. of the girls I know, I doubt any of them would want to date the guy just if they found out they were #7 or even #2, or that he had back ups in case she said no! I could be wrong, but that method seems like more of grocery shopping than looking for a steady relationship.
@dancing_in_nebulas Not sure what little black book is either.. I don't know, I'll take your word for it. I still think it's strange, just because that sounds exactly like when you're picking out like a pumpkin for Halloween or something, but I've never been very caught up on dating tricks, so I'm probably not the best judge anyways.
I think the real reason is tooo many people just dont understand till its too late just how high maintenance relationships are if they are at the core fake.
I fall into an entirely different category... single dad !! Also work FT still , and simply do not have the desire to date , do not have the time , money and above all , the inclination. Maybe it's my subconscious telling me " 2 children is enough.. no more !! " ... plus the memories of the ex wife I dumped !! I like your style , I 'm a former British Army soldier... you don't get more brutally blunt than that !!
I mean you aren't wrong at all. Good take. Although I feel you could have added points on how to improve these points. No single person is gonna fix themselves without knowing how.
You are completely right. Issue is the people who need to hear this most are the ones who will just tell you to piss off, and will most likely keep doing this self destructive shit
True blooded pussy here. In my 24 years of life only once has a girl made all the moves on me.
Considering I just can't bring myself to make my interest known to a girl, I look forward to the second time a girl will make a move on me when I'm like 48...
good take. :) especially the part where you said self improvement is important, it surely comes from self examination. We all need to self examine ourselves and be honest in everything in order to improve what is good.
You forgot to point out the eventual monotony that is the institution of monogamy. I like the last part though, everything else is too subjective, to evoke any real edification. We can surely be more pragmatic than a list of platitudes.
You need to write a fucking book! This is so freaking beautiful!. This is motivating me to stop being a little pussy and get what I want in this freaking world.
3. The dating world is a dangerous place with many liars in it. 2. Just throwing letters together doesn't make real words; the letters have to make sense together. 1. You have uttered many inconvenient truths.
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Cracking Take.
You're bound to get shit for this, but as far as I'm concerned you are absolutely spot on.
The entitlement on this site is often astonishing.
Why am I single?
> Your expectations are too high for someone of your caliber
My only expectation is that they talk to me, and 99% of women can't even do that.
> You’re ugly
I wouldn't say that, but I must be down right intimidating, since most women can't be in my presence for more than a few minutes without showing signs of nervousness, anxiety or just fleeing the area.
> You’re creepy and fucking weird
Creepy AND fucking weird... probably, so I'll grant you that one. However there MUST be women out there with a werewolf/hairy monster fetish.
> You’re a pussy, flat out
No. You don't scare me, no woman does, but do you know what DOES scare me? False rape accusations and landing in jail
> Fun fact: sitting on G@G all day bitching about how single you are is not going to make pussy and cock fall from the sky.
Yea, but you're having incel fun... right?
Your username is funny. Perfect for the next Elliot Rodger. Or any incel, who will most likely die a kissless virgin at 100 years of age. 😆
Reminds me of myself.
I had the thought of re-registering myself here under the username WomenHateMe
😂
@Unit1 Most women are too picky, especially in our generation.
I like your truth mixed with humour. I'm looking forward to your take on how to change your single status.. for those who care ofc.
I can do that, sure.
What humor? I didn't see any humor. I saw a salty little girl that got a little too comfortable behind the safety of her computer monitor.
ChronicThinker, I'm sure it's gonna be awesome!
@theGuyWithTheThing Just because you don't find it funny, it doesn't mean it isn't funny for everyone else either.
Read it again. There was no humor here. All she did was project her own insecurities on the audience.
@theGuyWithTheThing Thank you for pointing that out to me. I will re-read this take again with utmost care.
good luck. there's a lot of bitching and moaning in there. i hope u make it through okay.
I fall into none of these categories, and I'm single.
While I don't consider myself pretty (and I'm too fat), I don't find myself "ugly"-just plain. Bleh. The other categories on here don't fit me at all.
You can't make huge generalizations as to why someone is single.
I am guilty of some of this lol
although I don't expect a perfect person for a partner. definitely not lol, I'm not perfect.
however I do agree self improvement is important, and I was laughing at the part about weird and creepy because I've met my share of those too lol
The sad part is, they are too high up on the "woest be me" horse to accept the truth, or so down in the dumps of self pity this isn't even English to them.
You made the best point of all, the most obvious and easily fixable point... that its the person. Thats right, YOU.
Fucking brat society conforms people to blame everything but themselves. Its so bad, even fucking atheists blame a God they dont even believe in for their dating woes lol
The Internet is not like the real world. Most guys I interact with irl are not like this.
They are like that, they just dont show.
The last one is the only one I can recognize myself in, however the reason I never make a move makes sense to me. I know I suck. I never had even a kiss in my life and Im old enough to have kids. And since I know that if I approached women I would get shot down constantly, I feel like its better to seem like uninterested, than to seem like an undesirable loser (which is what I actually am). I don't understand women and I am not capable of having any kind of conversation except friendly. A guy like me approaching girls would be like a guy who never even saw a pool in his life jumping into a wild river and expecting to swim. Its just never going to happen
Why though? There is always some obstacle
@dancing_in_nebulas Women are not attracted to me. Its something specific to me. Much uglier guys get girls easily. And not just looks, in every aspect of life, there are guys who do worse than me, yet girls want them, but not me
Then its most likely nothing with your looks. Are you outgoing? What are your friends like?
The reason you think that way and the reason you've never even had a kiss is because you never make a move. You assume that girls aren't attracted to you, but since you've never made a move you'd never know, because unless you're really good looking they aren't gonna tell you so. They're afraid to do so themselves. At some point every guy has had to make their first approach/move having never done so before. The only way to learn is by doing it, and the more you do it the better you get at it. Most guys get shot down a lot because when you're the one approaching and pursuing, which most guys are, then it's just a numbers game. Even the best looking guys get shot down, just less. Those ugly guys you see who get girls will get shot down a ton - they just don't care because they know that they'll eventually find a girl who likes them. They know that every "no" they get from a woman brings them closer to the girl who'll say "yes".
@dancing_in_nebulas Used to be, not anymore that much. My friends are normal, couple of them are even a bit of womanizers, girls love them.
@englisc its not like I never tried with any girl in my life, but the ones I did try with, weren't interested, and the other ones also don't seem to be, since I have friends who are desirable to women, I can see how women behave when they like somebody. And after 29 years of no girl ever liking me, even 1% its hard for me to believe that any girl on this planet would be with me (because that girl probably doesn't exist)
29 is still pretty young, you seem to over analyze by how you are describing everything. I over think and it has stopped me meeting lots of guys due to constant self doubt and pre judging the situation beforehand.
Loosen up, get a nice look together for yourself and go out having a free heart and mind.
It is super difficult to date in general these days due to the "swipe for mr/mrs right," in which there is a presumption that the perfect person will magically walk around the corner - you know, with glitter and the heavens opening around them.
It rarely works that way. Men do better when building a list of women, (hence your womanizer friends,) not seaking out just one.
When I go out, I am usually girl #4 or #15 even of numbers men have collected, then they go through the list the next day and filter out which women are their tops and message them.
If none respond, you just collect more and have a good time doing it!
@dancing_in_nebulas What the hell that sounds like something my brothers would do, 😂 no offense.
Collect numbers and then sort through them? Oh yeah, that screams I want a real relationship all right.. of the girls I know, I doubt any of them would want to date the guy just if they found out they were #7 or even #2, or that he had back ups in case she said no! I could be wrong, but that method seems like more of grocery shopping than looking for a steady relationship.
@Jon_25
Thats what the men who actively date and get dates do. Women also do it, as we can easily have 10+ men already lined up as prospects.
Lol you're not in a relationship with anyone on list, there's nothing wrong with getting one together then filtering out your top picks.
@dancing_in_nebulas I guess, but still it seems a bit strange to me.
@Jon_25
Lol thats old school, thats why its strange.
Remember the little black book?
Lol, now when dating of course you're not collecting to hook up, just gathering your eggs then picking your favorites
@dancing_in_nebulas Not sure what little black book is either..
I don't know, I'll take your word for it. I still think it's strange, just because that sounds exactly like when you're picking out like a pumpkin for Halloween or something, but I've never been very caught up on dating tricks, so I'm probably not the best judge anyways.
I think the real reason is tooo many people just dont understand till its too late just how high maintenance relationships are if they are at the core fake.
Hahaha, you tell em, I'm progressing into senility, I can't do the partner thing. At least I'm not trying.
I fall into an entirely different category... single dad !! Also work FT still , and simply do not have the desire to date , do not have the time , money and above all , the inclination. Maybe it's my subconscious telling me " 2 children is enough.. no more !! " ... plus the memories of the ex wife I dumped !! I like your style , I 'm a former British Army soldier... you don't get more brutally blunt than that !!
I mean you aren't wrong at all. Good take. Although I feel you could have added points on how to improve these points. No single person is gonna fix themselves without knowing how.
The internet says this shit all the time. Nobody will say this to your face however.
You are completely right. Issue is the people who need to hear this most are the ones who will just tell you to piss off, and will most likely keep doing this self destructive shit
At the risk of having many, women are all lesbians-men, say AHA!, I think I love you. Lol
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True blooded pussy here. In my 24 years of life only once has a girl made all the moves on me.
Considering I just can't bring myself to make my interest known to a girl, I look forward to the second time a girl will make a move on me when I'm like 48...
good take. :) especially the part where you said self improvement is important, it surely comes from self examination. We all need to self examine ourselves and be honest in everything in order to improve what is good.
You forgot to point out the eventual monotony that is the institution of monogamy. I like the last part though, everything else is too subjective, to evoke any real edification. We can surely be more pragmatic than a list of platitudes.
You need to write a fucking book! This is so freaking beautiful!. This is motivating me to stop being a little pussy and get what I want in this freaking world.
Cool take, except:
3. The dating world is a dangerous place with many liars in it.
2. Just throwing letters together doesn't make real words; the letters have to make sense together.
1. You have uttered many inconvenient truths.
Meh, boo hoo.