How casual sex has ruined dating and intimacy

[Jason407]

Sex is meaningless now

The normalization and promotion of casual sex has changed how we, as a society, view sex. Sex is no longer a deeply intimate thing for most people. It's just a fun, pleasurable thing. The media has done a great job in normalizing hooking up. Young people mainly hookup over dating. And that's a serious issue. Sex has no value in our society and people are comfortable to do it with complete strangers. This not only takes away the intimacy of it but it affects our relationships too. People are expected to be faithful and not cheat in a society that encourages lots of sex, with many people. If you have lots of meaningless sex, it's gonna be hard to find meaning in it and that is why many relationships these days are failing. Traditional dating has been destroyed. People no longer go out on dates for a few months and then become exclusive. Young people just "fuck" for months and months and maybe, eventually, they will become exclusive. This system is messed up. It's no wonder modern relationships aren't working.

Feminism

The sexual liberation of women wasn't a good idea in my opinion. This change in society not only normalized casual sex but it changed how men view women. The modern man views a woman as hookup potential and not relationship potential. That's not a good thing for women in my opinion, unless women like being degraded and seen as sex objects. The hookup culture prospers because of women, and that means that Feminism is the cause of the hookup culture and therefore the death of monogamy and meaningful relationships. This is because women have the power when it comes to sex. Aside from rape, women choose when and how sex happens. If everyone woman refused to have casual sex, then casual sex would die. Instantly. So because women now give it up to any old random guy they find cute, some men see no point in dating and only focus on these kinds of women. Most women engage in casual sex. This means that they simply like to fuck. While there's nothing wrong with that, they are hurting their future relationships. Modern women are letting their vagina's control them and relationships and intimacy as a whole are suffering because of that. But I guess if women don't want meaningful relationships and just want sex, this whole paragraph is meaningless, but I don't think that's the case. Many modern men just want sex, because sex on it's own is now available, compliments of women. Therefore women who want realtionships now have to deal with guys who just want sex. I think it's a huge problem amongst modern women. Many of them are frustrated with the modern dating world yet they fail to see that it's their fault. Or maybe they just don't care. Maybe they do just want sex.

The death of dating

Now this is extremely serious. It's a huge problem. Young people are avoiding dating, in favor of casual sex. Hookup apps like Tinder make it extremely easy to just find sex without having to commmit. Not to mention the party culture of young people means getting laid on nights out is also easy. This makes young people forget about intimacy. They feel good about themselves because they feel they are having so much sex, with so many different people. However sex is easy to get and therefore people are losing their ability to commit and be intimate. For example the modern hookup is unemotional and awkward. Many people even put on muic while they have sex to numb the awkwardness. If people are having a very intimate act such as sex, without even talking, there's something wrong. Sex is a reward. People should have to work for it (mainly men). So now that modern men can have instant sex at the swipe of a screen is a big issue. A important, intimate act has now become meaningless and awkward one. What a time to be alive! And it's not like hookup sex is even good. It sucks. Sex in relationships is way better. So hooking up is just pointless and people do it to avoid relationships, something which isn't good for people. Humans are social beings and not being able to talk to a girl, but having sex with her, doesn't make sense.

I'm not gonna say that sex is bad. Of course it isn't. It's now a "new world" and people are open about sex - as they should be. But I just don't understand how relationships and intimacy have to suffer. People can have tons of amazing sex in relationships and there's nothing wrong with that. But young people opt for hooking up with dozens of people instead. That's not a good way to go about it in my opinion. I find relationships and intimacy have suffered as a result. But maybe people just don't want relationships. Maybe women just want sex and not relationships, and therefore don't care about how relationships are affected. So if that's the case just forget about this Take but if people still want relationships, they gotta see how rampantly hooking up with people affects them.

This take applies to both men and women, as both equally partake in hooking up. And both men and women's relationships are affected by this. Thank you for reading and if you disagree then lets dicuss!

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