I see the point you're trying to make and it's great, but it just doesn't work for me who really need partners that share a lot in common with us. Especially for people with my personality type (ISTJ), compatibility and keeping everything the way we are comfortable with is a very high priority. So while it would be interesting to try something uncharted, it wouldn't work well for someone like me in reality.
They work out. There are plenty of interracial relationships that work. The difference is they were started because the people had things in common. Not "just because" they were this or that race. Me and my boyfriend's differences as well as commonalities are what make our relationship great.
The only problem is when it gets serious and a few years down the track you find out they don't want to ever marry you because their family doesn't approve. Both myself and 2 of my friends have experienced this with interracial dating, so I would be very weary of recommending it to people who are looking for a long term partner.
I have to agree with this only because of what I've seen with my own eyes. My good friend is Caucasian, and she married a man from Haiti. His family doesn't really accept her and she always feels left out or not wanted because they don't accept her.
It may be a function of where you live. Where I grew up and went to school I had many relationships with women of the East Asian persuasion because that was who was around me. In fact, *I* was the minority at my university.
I wish to see more white males-black female couples more. But looks like it's mostly white females-black males, and that looks to be increasing as days pass.
For those who don't want to date interracially for some reason... one can have friends of other ethnic groups and get similar cultural benefits.
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I am a white woman dating a black man. you can't help who you fall in love
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There's nothing wrong with my race or my culture so I don't understand this mentality. I can be accepting of other races and cultures without destroying my own.
@Red_Doctor - well when more people have mixed race kids and people change your culture to accommodate others, eventually your race and your culture will be unrecognisable. For example in Britain white British people are a minority in their own capital city, and the culture is unrecognisable to what it used to be.
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I see the point you're trying to make and it's great, but it just doesn't work for me who really need partners that share a lot in common with us. Especially for people with my personality type (ISTJ), compatibility and keeping everything the way we are comfortable with is a very high priority. So while it would be interesting to try something uncharted, it wouldn't work well for someone like me in reality.
No. Nobody "should" try dating anyone they aren't interested in. Nobody "should" date at all unless they want to.
I find dating outside my race/culture to be a lot more interesting =)
@capncool You make some good points, I think a more appropriate title could be "Everyone should be open to dating..."
I'm not really a fan of cheeseburgers and mayonnaise
LOL!
can i still categorize my sex tapes as interracial if i'm half white? does that count?
Disagree. It won't work out.
Let's be real about this.
That's honesty! Not a lot of people want to admit, it won't work out because the differences are too great.
They work out. There are plenty of interracial relationships that work. The difference is they were started because the people had things in common. Not "just because" they were this or that race. Me and my boyfriend's differences as well as commonalities are what make our relationship great.
The only problem is when it gets serious and a few years down the track you find out they don't want to ever marry you because their family doesn't approve. Both myself and 2 of my friends have experienced this with interracial dating, so I would be very weary of recommending it to people who are looking for a long term partner.
I have to agree with this only because of what I've seen with my own eyes. My good friend is Caucasian, and she married a man from Haiti. His family doesn't really accept her and she always feels left out or not wanted because they don't accept her.
But, that isn't everyone's reality! If you really live someone, no one can stop you from committing, family included!
It may be a function of where you live. Where I grew up and went to school I had many relationships with women of the East Asian persuasion because that was who was around me. In fact, *I* was the minority at my university.
People tend to date people who have things in common. Dating someone from a different culture would be difficult. Of course, there are exceptions.
I wish to see more white males-black female couples more. But looks like it's mostly white females-black males, and that looks to be increasing as days pass.
I would have no problem dating someone of different ethnic origin. I am a white male, but I find women of color quite attractive!
A better title would have been date someone you like regardless race, culture, or religion.
Right. That would have avoided all the comments about the semantics of the article title.
"Everyone should try dating someone of a different race or faith..."
Nah.
No, thanks. I don't plan on having a relationship with someone with a different background.
So basically I should waste my time with a girl I know I'm not interested it?
or some animal like cow, horse, dog or cat. I could date some virus. just become a monk or nun will ya?
For those who don't want to date interracially for some reason... one can have friends of other ethnic groups and get similar cultural benefits.
I am a white woman dating a black man. you can't help who you fall in love
There's nothing wrong with my race or my culture so I don't understand this mentality. I can be accepting of other races and cultures without destroying my own.
How is dating someone outside of your race destroying anything?
@Red_Doctor - well when more people have mixed race kids and people change your culture to accommodate others, eventually your race and your culture will be unrecognisable. For example in Britain white British people are a minority in their own capital city, and the culture is unrecognisable to what it used to be.