This girl and I have been talking for a while. We don't see each other every day but when we do see each other things are amazing. We flirt, we laugh, and we tease each other. We have admitted that we like each other, but she only wants to keep things casual.
Anyhow, we had tentative plans on going to skit night (grad school event) and checking out my new place that was close to the venue. I sent her a text yesterday asking about it but she said she doesn't think so and is already carpooling with her friends. She said that she planned on just going straight home afterwards to study and she's in a lot of stress. I can kind of understand that because of how demanding school is.
I also mentioned that I wanted to make dessert for her. She said she doesn't have time to come over but she was super excited that I said I would drop it off. She was really curious as to what I was making.
Is anyone else in a casual relationship and act similar to this? I really don't know if I should try anymore..
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Hmmm... If you go out of your way to make her a dessert, take her just a slice/piece of whatever it is. If she likes it enough, say next time, come over and you can have it fresh from the oven. Things like that.
Basically you have to test the water. See if she's keeping you on the hook, has someone else she's flirting with casually as well or really is genuinely stressed. Just observe. Its usually a little easy to tell if she's just blowing you off or not.
A couple examples of why she might be:
1) She could also think you're inviting her over just for sex and isn't ready
2) she thinks going to your place would be too intimate like a serious date and isn't ready for that either
3) could be keeping you on the hook
4) she could actually be stressed. If she's stressed there'd be a post or 2 on Feb and she would have said SOMETHING about it, even if only in passing
A lot of words but I hope it helped0
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