It was my birthday..probably the fourth one i had with my boyfriend. i received a dinner treat and a little charm from him. to be honest, i was a little disappointed. because that's exactly what my female frn gave me. (and he is my bf - isn't that something MORE?)
on the other hand,.. i felt like i contributed much more on his bday the previous year.. a beach holiday trip and a pair of sunglasses. to make matters worse, my friends' bfs give amazing gifts..hotel stays, thousand dollar 21st gift (yes yes i shouldn't compare)
i probably sound utterly materialistic, but i can't help it. if the only right thing to do is to change my thinking then i guess ill work on it.
he isn't poor, he is the sort that is mindful of his expenditure. will he ever change? (with the right cues) I don't want to end up in a marriage like my parents - ungiving. nothing is celebrated.
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Best gifts aren't 'gifts', they're usually experiences, trips, adventures.
You're comparing him to a friends man that gave her $1000 ?
Be happy you have a man with at least a bit more imagination.
Its easy to buy those things, plenty of guys could do that; because its just money (thoughtless unfeeling money).
Next time just ask for a real surprise before you b/d? tell him you want to do something original?
I'm not necessarily saying money doesn't matter concerning gifts, but the thought matters most.
Like a $1000 envelope is a lot, but if he spent half that money and twice the time thinking; you'd probably be happier with some gift that is uniquely You.
He seems genuinely well intended, most women would melt at being given jewelry? And a romantic dinner isn't so bad, just a tad cliche?0