So I've been dating this girl for 3 months and I love her to death. However, she has a major grudge problem:
Let me explain.
I've made a few mistakes over the course of our relationship. For example, when things were really down a month ago, I asked one of my closest friends for dating advice and told him about her personal problems because I knew he would be able to relate better than I could (they both have depression, etc.) and she got really upset with me because of the things I told him that she didn't want him knowing, and she's held onto this grudge ever since. And just last night, she asked me if I still liked a girl and I said I used to but now I found her unappealing. I said we "flirted" but it wasn't ACTUALLY flirting. This girl was like one of those people who constantly sounds like their flirting and I just play along. She translated it as "we still flirt". You can assume how she still feels about it.
I feel as if she's being way too melodramatic about everything. I have to apologize for everything and it starts to sound repetitive and insincere. She has this image of me of someone I'm not because I've made a few dumb mistakes.
Can anyone help? Should we break up? Why does she never forgive?
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You should say something along the lines of,
"Look, I really like you (you can say love if you've both said it. But, come on. You've only been together for 3 months.) and I really care about you. You mean the world to me, and I'm sorry I upset you when I asked about your depression. I just wanted to understand what I could do to make you happy and not depressed. I know it was stupid, and I should have gone to you about it, but I didn't want to make you even more upset and depressed by thinking you don't make me happy. Because, you do. You make me the happiest in the world when you're around! I think you're beautiful, smart, funny, and everything I look for in a. I could never think of being with anyone except you. will you please forgive me?"
I'm about 80% sure this would work. The 20% would be if she saw this post. LOL!
Please realize that statement will put you in a trap and you'll have to fully commit, possibly for the rest of your life. If you don't think you can, again, it's only been 3 months. It's best to break up before you drag things out that you can't fully commit to, and end up being hurt and hurting her A LOT worse than it would if you just ended it.0