I asked a guy today if we are exclusive or just talking because I don't want think we are only talking to or interested in each other if he doesn't feel the same way. We have talked about dating and he wants to take things slow and get to know me because he is gone a lot for work and I understand, and when I asked him I made it clear I wasn't talking about dating or being in a relationship. I don't want to annoy him but I feel like this is something I should know. do you think it was too pushy/needy or is it a question guys get annoyed with?
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I think it shows respect and establishes a line. If a woman does not ask me if we are exclusive, I assume we are not and do what I want on my own time.
The downside is that he might answer no, that he is dating around.
A few other comments sound very stupid. It's not okay to ask about where your relation is at? Really? Or you should figure it out?
No! Communication is key. Feel free to ask and talk about whatever you want. Relationships are built on trust and understanding. Not implicit (you assume), but explicit (you both agree).
That being said, what does it mean to be exclusive if you are not dating? You mean he's not allowed to have friends or hang out with other people? If you want to be exclusive, it has to be in a dating or relationship stage. Like "I'd like to date you, but only if we would be exclusive". And me personally, I'd appreciate if a woman was that direct with me. I might not date her if I didn't like her, but if I did, I would know she was for real and not fooling around, and I would take her more seriously.1