So i've been dating this guy for a bout a month. i REALLY like him, but he's got to be the shyest guy i know. He DID make a first but very subtle move (are you going to this event? let me know if you go!) that led to us meeting and then he asked me out for drinks with friends. since then we've been on 3 alone dates, and multiple friend hangouts together with other people. We have another date planned for next week. Aside from the first date, I've initiated all other dates/plans, and I'm always the one texting him. He will text back FAST and ask me about my day and say sweet things with smiley faces and exclamation marks I don't think he'd be using unless he liked me. He also get a bit nervous around me (stutter a little at first), but the more time i spend with him the more he has opened up to me. Still it feels like we are just getting to know each other. Now my friend who knows him just told me he will not commit cuz he's afraid of relationships? Can this be possible? I bet it took a lot of effort for him to ask me out/make the first move given how shy he is, but who makes such a great effort if they don't want a gf down the road? Like he's really shy so putting in that much effort must mean that he's really interested but now my friend says he won't commit? ADVICE PLEASE! I REALLY like him. and i'm patient too to take things slow due to the shyness.
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You've only been on 3 dates and already thinking about whether he will commit to you or not. If he is beginning to open up to you then what's wrong with simply enjoying every minute you are with him and letting thing progress naturally?
There is nothing wrong with constant, gentle encouragement to open up more (in fact he will need it) without being pushy. If he resists your encouragement to open up about something then leave it and move on.
How does your friend know he's afraid of relationships, has she been in one with him? How does she know him so well when he is so shy?
If you simply enjoy company together then who knows, you may be 6 months down the track and find yourself in the very committed relationship you wanted without even thinking about it!2