Hi ladies :)
I'm a college guy and until a spinal injury I was a football player.
I still have my football figure and so I'm pretty tall with 6'5 and close to 230lbs
I'm pretty muscular around the shoulders / arms and legs but some excess fat has gotten me a bit of a stomach :(
Do you think girls in college would consider me dateable? Maybe taller girls?
I've never gotten a girl to go out with me so in my mind I don't even have a shot which seems about right.
I'm just looking for some input and tips :)
And yeah I'm working on losing the fat.
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Okay, this may not be the response that you want but it's going to be the response that you need.
You're being way too hard on yourself. You're focusing way too much on the negative. Don't believe for a moment anyone else on this planet cares even a millionth of a percent as much as you do about your perceived flaws. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for the simple fact that you're still here, living it, and your purpose is still alive just as strong as anyones.
The first thing you need to do is forgive yourself. Don't be your own worst enemy. The strongest version of yourself exists first in your mind. Nurture your mind, man. I know just through reading this you're killing yourself in your own mind. Stop that now.
Make that amazing analysis of yours your new strength. You're going to kill it once you get the right mindset. Be patient but critical with yourself. Take the time to understand your ideal self. Master that premise, it cannot be overstated. Once you know this with conviction the next step is sacrificing who you are for whom you wish to be. Begin with the mind, it's all that matters honestly.
If anything I said makes sense and you want more tips I'll help you. I don't know if you can pm on this site as I just made it today but at any end I'm rooting for you, dude.2