Ladies...How does a guy tell if a girl is just using you for either money or what?

How would a guy test or tell if a girl is using him for either money, emotional relationship and not physical etc?


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  • A gold digger will turn her nose up at heartfelt, sentimental gifts because she is eager for gifts that are caked with money and expects nothing less than 4 star accommodations and food venues, shopping at designer stores and exotic vacations. Most likely she"ll only suggests expensive gifts, trips, restaurants, etc.
    She has temper tantrums when you don’t buy her things
    A gold digger has the emotional age of a child and will not hesitate throwing a tantrum when things don’t go her way–especially when you refuse to buy something for her or give her more money.
    She’s overly concerned about your financial status
    A gold digger is interested in hearing about your career and financial status from day one. She is a very manipulative woman who pretends to be interested in you by asking questions about your occupation so she can discover your job title, measure your earnings’ potential and ensure that you have plenty of income to spend on her and support her lifestyle.
    She never pays for anything
    When it comes time to pick up the check for a dinner, a movie or just about anything else the two of you are undertaking– she is nowhere to be found. If you are the one who is constantly shelling out money in the relationship, that should be your sign that she’s just using you.
    She feels entitled
    A gold digger will walk around feeling entitled to the good life without feeling any need to lift a finger to achieve it. Since she craves status and doesn’t have long-term goals, the gold digger expects to drive a brand new car with luxury features and wear $500 shoes without feeling any need to earn her own money to achieve it. This type of high-maintenance woman feels that it’s her right to be able to pursue her big dreams at the expense of financial stability, and, coincidentally, hasn’t considered who will foot the bill.
    She heavily relies on others & lacks any career aspirations.
    Watch out !


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What Girls Said 4

  • The only way a girl can tell if a guy is just using her for sex…time will tell.

    Personally, I think if a girl isn't *at least* offering to pitch in her share after the first few dates, it could be a red flag. Granted, there are still girls out there that are old-fashioned and expect the man to always pay during the dating phase, but I would like to think by the 5th date you'd be able to tell if she's interested in you as a person (with conversation, visual cues, etc.) rather than just a money bag.

  • Get her something simple (a book) or something that she would be really interested in having but no more than $20. Don't wrap it, don't make a big deal. Just give her the gift and say you thought of her. See how she reacts...does she looked shocked, HOW does she say thank you (sincerely, not sincerely). Does she comment about why she likes it...usually women who are really into a guy will tell you WHY they like a gift. Now if it's a book or something, give her time to read it to tell you how she's liking it. Or if she is into makeup, look at what products she uses and buy her a new eyeliner pen or new eye makeup, see if she is impressed you know her style. A woman who is just in for money won't care really that you know her on the inside, but a woman that really is interested will be excited to know you care.

  • I would say try giving her something or taking her somewhere that is too expensive for how long you've been dating or simply purpose such an idea and see how she reacts. It could backfire, if she isn't a gold digger she may be offended or scared off.

  • Her eyes turn into big dollar signs whenever you are around
    Her favourite plant is the money plant
    Instead of reaching for a kiss, she reaches for your pocket and pets it fondly.


What Guys Said 1

  • If you are spending money and not getting laid, she's using you for money.