I'm asking this because I thinks its kinda unfair for a single parent to date someone that doesn't have kids simply because the kids will be #1 in the single parent's life and the bf/gf/ will never be, while the bf/gf with no kids will have the single parent #1 in their life that's why I think that single parents should only date single parents because they are in the same boat. The only situation where I think that a single person should consider dating a person with kids is when they can't have kids of their own but want kids or if the kids are grown. Not saying that a parent shouldn't put their kids1st so don't think I'm saying that, I just think it would be better for single parents to date other single parents.
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I'm a single mum, I'm 22 (judge me if you will), I've recently starting putting myself back on the market and I prefer to go for men who have kids. Not necessarily single dads (fathers who have primary care of their child/ren) but men who have kids. For a number of reasons; first being that they themselves are a parent and understand the necessity that their child/ren comes first, and that's unconditional. Second, anyone I bring into my life, particularly a man, may ultimately be a father figure for my son. I need to be able to trust that said man can live up to that (and I know that just because a man has kids it doesn't Automatically make him a father figure but this is where I introduce my gut instinct and common knowledge), and lastly because we are both in the same boat. Both have kids, both been through separation, it just creates a mutual understanding base that is very hard to find with someone who doesn't have kids. And also too, if both of us have kids from previous relationships, there is no one black sheep. I always stress that I may find a man with no children, he and I will have our own kids and my first born is kinda the black sheep if that makes sense. Where as bringing in another child from another relationship can help. The kids have both been through the same situations etc etc.2