I like this guy and we've only went out for lunch once before and we went dutch at that time. He's currently looking for a job and hasn't got any income, so I know he needs to save up.
We're going out again tomorrow but I'm not sure if I should offer to pay for our lunch, plus I kind of want to go to the cinema as well, which means he would have to spend more.
What should I do? Should I just go dutch again and not ask to go to the cinema?
Most Helpful Guy
No, wait, read this first!!!
So first of all, since you're going out tomorrow, tell him what he expects to do...
Mention that to him hours before you go out is good or whenever you feel it is right to be done,
"There this cool movie I want to watch called "Name", it seems interesting, up for it?"
Of course test it in your own way.
If you guys are already dating do it in a way to seem like a tease,
"Oh today is my treat and you can do nothing about it!" something funny so doesn't feel
like you are actually offering money to him.
But if you're not dating each other (or dating) either ways I suggest this as the best option to do,
Tell him that we're going to split the bill, it's fair and understandable and doesn't seem that it have any other motives, if he the type of men who prefer to pay the lunch for his lady or insist to not to do so, tell him next time it will be your treat! (This way he will expect to pay for both of your lunch (Safe) and he might forget about it (Safe)
You never know what thoughts he might think about you paying the bill, It could be as worse as you're not satisfied with him! or he might actually be thinking that you fell bad for him cause he is low on budget (That may lower his confidence thus ruining the hangout).
So split the bill is the best there to it.
But here is a smart tip:
Buy the two cinema tickets before you guys hangout, and tell him a white lie (Example: My friend was going to hangout with me today but she didn't come and now I have this ticket, so can you use it, you don't have to pay for it!) you get the point, it works like charm.
But make sure he have free time tomorrow and inform him about that both of you will go to the cinema to watch a movie.
Best of luck!3