Right now my bf and I take turns paying for things. But I get the feeling that he expects me to pay for almost everything because I make more then he does. We both make a decent living so it's not like our salary is minimum wage and we're struggling to make ends meet.
My question is do you expect the girl to pay for more things if she makes more? Is it fair for the girl to pay for more? What do you think?
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Money is something that can eat at a relationship if not talked about. Ideally you want a balance, he pays for certain things while you get others. You can do that and account for whoever has slightly better pay without it seeming like he is being paid for.
I've been in the role of less money and it doesn't feel nice even if they shower you with gifts, it creates an imbalance of power too. I've also been in the role of more money by a little bit and it is hard to not feel obliged to chip in more than needed.
Unless you both wish for an arrangement where one of you is more in control you need to discuss what feels fair. You split bills by one pays for one and the other pays for the other, who ever gets more takes the bigger choice but all responsibility is halved still. You also need to be mindful not to spend on yourself too much as to make them wish they could do that.0