I want to spend the night at my boyfriend's house, but I'm afraid my mother will say no. My dad said he doesn't want to get involved, and for me to ask my mom. I have a very good relationship with my parents; however, my mom can get pretty iffy on some things even though my dad is more lenient. I'm 19 and work, so it's not like I'm bumming around. I pay for school, and I do help out around the house. If the answer is no, then it's no. I'm just wondering if in this case I should lie to my mother and tell her that I'm going over a friend's house instead of telling her where I'm really going?
- Yeah, lie to her.Vote A
- No, be up front and tell the truth.Vote B
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You are 19 years old! Who you have sex with is no one's business but yours, and you should never discuss it with anyone. Sex harms no one, is good for self-esteem, and is lots of fun. Always use a condom and choose discreet males who will not be telling everyone they bonked you.
You may lie to your mother if you wish to avoid a confrontation. But the time has arrived for you to take charge of your life as an adult despite living with your parents (as I assume you do). You can naively tell the truth and meekly allow your mother to dominate your social and sexual existence until you are 30 or so or until she dies.
Sexual issues do not qualify as moral issues when they involve consenting adults, and your mother is not part of that equation. You can solve the matter by frank confrontation with her or become an old maid. Thank your lucky stars that you live in the Western Hemisphere in the 21st Century in a place and time when women may control their own lives and are not ruled by religious fanaticism or their parents tribal affiliation. Have all the sex you want and give a bit of thought to those women who face clitoridectomies, honor killings, and stonings for adultery if they even think about unauthorized sex. Unused freedoms are undeserved freedoms.1