My boyfriend and I have known each other for our entire lives and he use to practically live with us when we were kids. He stayed every summer and every weekend during school. We were the weird kids who were avoided by everyone and so we only had each other for the most part.
Well when we both started to hit puberty, he bloomed into a very attractive young man, and me into a not so attractive younge lady. He suddenly had all kinds of girls who didn't really care how weird he was because of the way he looked.
This is why I found it a shock that he wanted to be my boyfriend.
This is the thing that gets me. He told me that I have a nice face and an amazing shy and kind-hearted personality.
I am kind of a bigger girl (not fat, just a little chubby) and he said that it doesn't matter to him, although I think that it is somewhat untrue. I'm less embarrassed about my weight and more so about my proportions. He is a big boob lover and I have a small b cup with my areola covering half of my boob and they are puffy too, so they look horrid and repulsive when they aren't erect. I have nothing to compensate for it either because my butt and hips aren't that big either.
I am not worried about him accepting me for what I am because I already know he does, it's just the heart-wrenching thought that such an amazing and attractive guy has to "settle" for less. We have never had sex, but we want to, and I want him to be attracted to my physical appearence. I know that looks don't matter as much as personality, but even still, no woman wants to feel unattractive in an way to their man, and I feel as though I am to him because the only thing that he ever called beautiful was my face and personality, and when I told him about my self concious issues he said that he would accept anything about me, never calling the entire me beautiful.
Can I please get some good advice on how to cope with this or maybe even just get over it completely?
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This is very dangerous thinking. The truth is he has chosen to be with you and not someone else for a reason. He cares about you and wants to be with you and that should be the most important thing.
My ex did this to me before, she broke up with me telling me I deserve better and doesn't see how I could be attracted to her. No matter what I told her she had her mind made up that I couldn't possibly find her attractive. Over time we both slowly got over it but she stressed the point things would never be like they once were because of what she did. I agreed with that because it put me through a lot of hell wondering what I did wrong for a long time. But it would never change the fact she did that, and I knew she was never going to change her mind in that regard.0