I was in a long distance relationship with my ex for 6 months. He was very caring for the most part. However the last month we were fighting heaps because issues started to build up. He never wanted to sort out our issues and preferred to act like everything was ok but I couldn't pretend that we were ok. I was so hurt that he didn't care about my feelings. When I told him why I was upset he didn't want to listen and kept saying why can't we just be happy like we were before? During our last fight he said he didn't want to call me to talk about our issues saying that he didn't feel like it. When he finally called, I told him how I was feeling and all he replied was ok is that all you have to say coz I want to go study. I just completely lost it and broke up with him right on the spot and said bye and hung up. I also blocked him on Facebook and deleted his number off my phone. I did this a day before his exam at uni. I felt terrible for the bad timing but he kept hurting me and I just couldn't take being disrespected that way until his exam was over.
I sent an email apologizing for the bad timing but he never replied. We didn't talk for a month. Just yesterday I asked him if he could send me something important to me that I left at his place. He said that i talk such bullshit and that I'm selfish and how I don't deserve anything from him. Even after that hurtful email I sent an apology email coz I didn't want to leave things on a sour note from my end and of course he didn't reply.
Was it really selfish of me to break up with him before his exam given the situation? I don't get why he's still so angry and treating me like this. I doubt he will ever talk to me again or return my item..
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Yeah, it was selfish. I've been in a similar position before. Things get heated and emotional and you don't really have any sense of logic when you are arguing, huh? What you both should have done is given eachother a couple days to cool off and then talk about it. Breaking up with him the day before his exams was a terrible choice. He was being a bit douchey with you, but that's probably because he is struggling to handle the stress of exams, and the stress of arguing with his girlfriend. There's nothing you can really do now apart from giving him a while longer and then talking to him somehow in real time, not just a message apologizing and then asking for your stuff. Talk to him about why you did what you did in the nicest way possible (if you put ANY blame on him you have a very big risk of starting another argument), ask to be on good terms again and then once you've both cooled try and get your stuff0
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