I met a guy online, and we hit it off really well online, getting to know each other for a few days. he suggested we go for coffee/drinks. We met up a couple days later on Sunday afternoon. We ended up talking for 2.5 hours and then we both had to go (we both had studying or work to do from home). At the end of the date, when I said Thank you (as he paid for my 2 drinks), he said, "No... thank you".
He texted me when I got home, asked if I got home safe or whatever and we talked back and forth a bit. Then Sunday i texted him and we talked/joked back and forth during the day. (I was studying that day and he knew this). Then I never heard from him again. I didn't text him again b/c I assumed he would contact me if he was interested.
Here are 2 things, I think I did "wrong":
1) I mentioned going on some very "bad" dates online, although I was fairly vague. I did expand on one very recent experience of one guy I met online who asked to talk on the phone first... and how when I told him I wasn't interested he went crazy and started harassing me with texts. So, maybe this guy thought if he texted me or called me too much, I might think he's crazy or something like? He's good-looking but pretty geeky, kind of shy, and I don't think he has very much experience with girls or dating, based on the things he would say.
2) He went to kiss me on the cheek at the end, and it really surprised me and I kind of got awkward but we both joked it off. (I am not a touchy person, especially w/ people I have just met).
This was back in February. And while he's closed his account, I can see he still has his. I don't know if I am just obsessing over nothing and maybe I'm lonely, but I've thought of texting him again... but thinking that might look fairly weird.
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Yes, you're overthinking it.
Text/call him! He'll be glad to hear from you, especially because time has passed. It shows that you haven't forgotten him or the time you had together.
Put yourself in his place... Would you be happy to hear from him?
Guys don't play relationship chess like girls do. We're dense that way. This may be a good thing. :-)0
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