I've never been in a relationship before. I'm very shy and it's incredibly difficult to approach a girl when you're shy. For you girls who complain about guys, be glad that you don't have to break your void of shyness and ask someone out like we do. Not to mention the feeling of being rejected after you mustered up so much courage to do it. Anyway every time I've ever asked a girl out, I've gotten friendzoned and I'm not sure why.
Over the years it's just gotten extremely discouraging and I just wonder nowadays why bother? Anyway I digress. The reason I asked this is because despite my difficulties, I can usually tell when a girl is interested in me but I'm never sure if she is just super friendly, sexually attracted to me or just mildy interested in me. There are 2 girls that I work with (both of which are very very attractive) and I can tell that they like me.
I've wanted to ask either of them out for a while but they both work in a totally different unit than me so I rarely see them and usually when I do, they are not alone (which makes me even more shy). What do I do? Are any of you girls dating shy guys? How did you 2 end up together?
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the fact that they like you is great, so it won't be too hard to get them to actually say yes. I am not in a relationship with a shy guy, but here's a few things..
Asking a girl out can be intimidating, but it's nice to go in with an almost carefree attitude. You shouldn't make it too high pressure, like it's a huge deal, but more casual. Don't make it like you're begging her, don't say please. Then again it shouldn't look like a pity invite, so avoid any "if you want to" or really just don't use the word "if". If asking her to dinner seems to serious, lunch is way more laid back.
Try just meeting up with her whenever she's alone, compliment her casually, then say "Join me for lunch at ____?" It's that simple.
When she says yes pick up the tab. It's just manners, and some girls come to expect that. If she insists you don't, then let her (it's better not to make a scene) but if she doesn't say anything just pay.
Anyway I really hope this helps. I'm sorry if it sounds complicated - it shouldn't be. The key is to be natural and friendly, try to muster up some confidence and I'm sure she'll say yes. ;)
Of course I personally would probably be okay with a guy I like coming up and saying. "You're gorgeous - go out with me to _____." But I get that it might not be that attainable for a shy person.0