I have been seeing a guy for 1 month. I came out to him about my feelings For him. He was super happy I told him because he had been wondering if there was something there ( because he always thought there was but was too afraid to ask). Since then we have hung out about five times and always have a blast together. But the problem I have is... I told him I liked him, I leaned in to kiss first, I have had to ask him every time I want to hang out, he never starts a text convo with me, and when he replies it takes 2-4 hrs to respond back. Is that normal? Anybody else dating a shy guy and feeling like this? Or is he just not that into me? Not sure what to think bc when we do hang out, we can't stop talking and it's all good.
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He sounds like an introvert. My girlfriend is an introvert so I know what to expect. He needs his space. Messaging really quickly is likely very exhausting so he tries to space it out. You're lucky you get a response , actually. It took about 9 months for my girlfriend to get to a point where she can message me often-ish and ask to spend time together, although she still doesn't initiate the conversation often. We're also the same in that when we hang out it's all good, just messaging doesn't happen much.
Kissing is something that will either come naturally or you need to express your concern about him never leaning in. I myself generally initiate but about 7 months in I got annoyed that I always had to do it so I talked to her about it and it's now 60:40 .
Patience and communication is key when dating a shy person/introvert.
Best of luck!2