I am 23, and I am African American. Personally, I have no problems with interracial relationship, and I think that it shows progress within our society.
Anyway, I have been going out a lot lately, going on social media sites/dating sites... and I noticed that a lot of black women are strongly interested in dating white men. Many will even go as far to say that they are not interested in dating black guys and are only exclusively dating outside their races (white guys only).
As a black guy, I have no problem with dating black women. I am probably speaking for myself on this one, but I go through little phases sometimes. When I used to live in NYC, I dated quite a few black women. During my high school years, I move to a predominantly white state. So I was only able to date white women. Now that I moved for college and live in a very mixed area (Asian, mixed, Hispanic, black, white, etc, etc, etc)... I am no longer interested in dating black women or white women.
Don't get me wrong. I am willing to date any race, but I want to see what else is out there right now.
Also, not trying to sound racist here... but I have always wanted an interracial relationship and a biracial child. My family is all black, and I thought it would be cool to change my family dynamics and marry interracially. But, if my ideal partner happens to black, that's fine too :).
While I am not really biased about who I date... my question remains. As black people, are we afraid of dating each other? How come so many black people seem to only want to date white people?
Like I said, I speak for myself and my opinions are my own. I am just curious as to what other people will say.
- I prefer to date outside my raceVote A
- I prefer to only date people within my raceVote B
- I'm not biased about who I dateVote C
- See resultsVote D
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You can still get a racially ambiguous child if you mate with a black woman. Just look at Pharrell Williams, he's 100% black but looks Blasian and so does his wife and she's 100% Ethiopian (African). Anyway, I'm mixed and I date latino and black guys. I mostly just date brown people lol (Samoan, Hawaiian, Blasian, Native, Mexican, Filipino, Thai, etc). I don't really see it as dating outside my race since most of them look Black to me, I don't know how to explain it lol. But I really want a husband who looks like my favorite singer or who favors my dad, he looks Korean. He looks like a mix between Bi Rain and Will Smith seriously lol. But I don't want my children to be pale skinned though. My last ex was Blasian and he had the most gorgeous brown skin ever. His skin color and his features were very attractive and I was very happy to date him b/c he had features like my dad and we had a lot in common, but he was too immature so we broke up. But his skin was like a beautiful mahogany color and I've never seen anyone with a beautiful skin tone like that. I said, I want my kids to have his skin color and for my kids to come out darker than me so I can teach them to love their skin tone and to not be obsessed with lighter skin. I'm pale and when people just like me b/c I'm lightskin, I hate that with a passion. So I want my kids to feel special and to love themselves from an early age and I want to instill that love and pride in them. I want them to have pride in themselves and to not boast about being mixed or whatever. I don't do that shit that's like looking down on people b/c you're more "ethnic" and "exotic" or whatever and that's not cool. I just want my kids to be proud of themselves and to love their relatives and our family traditions and culture. Even if my kids turn out to look more black, I want them to be proud of that and not feel any shame whatsoever.0