Hello, So I'm gonna be quick with this.
We've been dating 8 months and she still doesn't trust me to the fullest ( well who does that anyways ). So, like 3-4 months ago, out of nowhere, I gave her my Facebook login and password, and I told her that she can look at all my chats at any time, and I would stop talking to whoever she wants or something like that.
However... She refuses... It's been 3-4 months (again, I cannot remember) and I've been asking her for a while, be she refuses. To you optimistic people : no, she does not "trust me already". She distrusts me so much, that she says, if she saw those chats she would go even do depression or just cry. Basically she's thinking I'm like... I don't even know... Flirting with girls and stuff. So that's my situation right now, what can I do to help her distrust? I of course want her trust, I never delete any conversations, I want her too know everything about me, I shared almost all of my secrets, I just want her to feel safe with me.. I don't know what can I do anymore... What can I do? How can I make her just go an look at my chats? Check up on me, ask me about other people that I'm talking to? I mean all of this, it just feels like total distrust in me... I don't want that in my relationship with her... I just want her too trust me...
Wow... I said I'll keep this short... Oh well... Anyways it's as small as I can make it.
So I will be waiting for responses and hope you guys can help me, in advance, thanks for reading and answering.
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This doesn't sound like a happy relationship at all... No offense, but you really aren't helping her in any way by staying with her and letting her continue to put your relationship down...
If I were you, I would say the following...
"Either you are going to be in this relationship with me or you are not. If you want to loath in self pity for a reason that does not even exist then continue to do so alone because I am not going to sit here and watch you do it to yourself and our relationship. I have given you 100% of me and you continue to deny me day in and day out yet here I stand - still. So either sit down with me now and let us work through this together and we can look at our face books together --- or you can walk out the door."1
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