First date - a bar
Second date - the movies (fooled around with him in his car.. I pursued it)
Third date - restaurant, then I asked to see his house (sex)
Fourth date - watching Breaking Bad at his house (sex, I slept over)
Now he's back from a vacation and asked if I wanted to hang and suggested tomorrow. He suggested coming over to watch Breaking Bad again and I accepted. (He's working 10 hours tomorrow.) But then the next date, probably Thursday, we can go to this bar/arcade that I really want to go to because we're both getting off of work early.
I'm an OVERLY cautious person by nature. What should I do? I joked that he's after one thing and he said no and I could not just not want to do anything sexual with him on that date.
He texts me good morning every morning. And today we talked on the phone for half an hour about random stuff.
I honestly don't know if I even want him to be my bf but I just love sex too much and he's cool to hang out with.
Background info- I'm 21, he's 24. We're both out of long term relationships. Both saving up money. He wants to move out of his parent's house by Xmas.
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Of course he's using you for sex. He's been putting his naughty bits inside your naughty bits, right?
That's cool though, because it's s a separate question from the one you meant to ask, which is if he's actually into you beyond just sex.
Well, that'll take a while to know for sure. Unless you're friends first for a long time (and then it's always just friends) you're still getting to know each other. The fact that you're boning each other doesn't automatically mean there are romantic feelings. It just means you turn each other on and that you might develop romantic feelings as you go.
This kind of thing is the price of the sexual revolution. Now the sex is up front and the rest of the relationship gets built (or not) on that foundation rather than the other way around. So go ahead and use him for sex and if you want more and he wants more awesome. If not, you keep looking for the connection you want.0