I am 23 years old. I have never had a girlfriend. I have never been on an actual date. Never kissed a girl. And still obviously a virgin.
All of my life.. . well since 8th grade... whenever I would talk to girls, get to know them and ask them on dates. I would always get rejected (this still happens) and they would tell me how sweet of a guy I am and that the right girl will come along one day.
Is it wrong of me to find this as an insult? I hate being told that I will find the right girl someday.
-My older brother is 44. Great guy. Great job. Great physique. Can't find any women that truly likes him. As a result, he has a couple of fuck buddies he met from bars.
-My old manager is 60. He has not been in a relationship in over 30 years. No kids. He just works a lot.
-My college professor is also in his 60s. Great guy. Very funny. Told me he has never had a real relationship. No kids either, and he lives alone.
-I also know (not personally) of a few older celebrities in their late 30s and 40s who have never had a real relationship.
I have more examples... but those are just a few.
So... why do women tell guys this, especially if there really if the "right girl" hasn't come along for so many guys?
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Women want guys that set their loins on fire. You have to be that guy before anything else. After they decide they want to have sex with you need other traits to keep them around long term. Telling you to wait and the right girl will come around is horrible advice. What they are doing is telling you not to change, when clearly it is time you made some changes.
I would suggest you read the book Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss. It isn't some book that teaches you to treat women like shit. It is actually the greatest self help book ever written for men. It will walk you through the process to become a better man, that women will admire. Right now you are putting an unattractive image of yourself out there, and need to make some changes. Being yourself isn't working, so now it is time to work on being a better version of yourself that women will actually want to have sex with. You don't have to stop being yourself, when improving yourself. You just become a better version of yourself.0