My dad is emotionally and verbally abusive and controlling to me and to others. He also tries to control me and my life and hold it over me that he has provided for me during my life. isn't that the job of a parent to make sure a child has what she needs?
Naturally I harbor a lot of resentment towards him that has built up for a long time. I even was in therapy and probably still need more. He doesn't want me to make my own choices and wants to control me and he has said such horrible things to me and about me. Really wreaked havoc on my self esteem.
Anyhow I really dislike him and I do have daddy issues. After a while of dating a guy it comes out how my father is controlling. I've had times where I left the house upset and I ended up telling my boyfriend I hate my father and he's a control freak.
I told my boyfriend all about how awful mi padre is. My boyfriend is older than me.
Does this make me a bad girl? s it a red flag to men? My boyfriend doesn't seem to care one way or another just says he is sorry my dad upsets me and try not to let it get to me.
But I have to wonder.
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It depends what you mean by 'red flag'. Do I think she's wrong to hate her father? That depends on the situation. Some people do deserve hate. It's right to hate a genuinely abusive father. It's wrong in fact not to hate him.
But regardless whether she's right or wrong to hate him, I would worry about the psychological effect her relationship with her father has had on her. So that could be a red flag1