Like the title says, I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl, been on a date, texted a girl, and barely had any as friends. I've had low confidence in this area all my life and always told myself that it'll probably never happen and now that is coming true. So I've never asked a girl out or approached a girl at all, unless it was to ask a quick question. And now I'm at the point where it feels pointless to try because I think that most girls will be turned off when they learn how inexperienced I am, or will pick up on it and think something is wrong with me and stay away.
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I think it's something pointless to worry about, because either you go out there and get experience or you don't. Things happen for different people at different times and you can't force these things that involve two people. I know it may be easier said than done, but try not to think about your lack of experience and just focus on being yourself. The physical stuff comes later, after you have already hopefully proven you're a great person. Once you reach that point and the physical is introduced, you have a lotttt more leeway, but just be open and honest with the girl that you haven't had a lot of experience so if it sucks the first time, bare with you because you want to get better! Or something like that. I think a girl would find it endearing and perhaps even flattering!! Trust me, it's much better than the alternative: a guy who's a player with way too many notches under his belt. Whole bunch of worry comes with that. Our society today is just so focused on sex- how many partners you have, what makes a man... there's absolutely nothing wrong with having less experience and waiting for something meaningful.1