I have been dating this guy for 2 years and I still haven't met any of his family. We use to go out all the time but now we never go out together. He only wants to come over at night but I tell him to go home because it is getting late. He isn't getting it from me so who is he getting it from. Why does he never take me out and when I ask him about it. He always says we will do something this weekend but we never do. He sometimes waits weeks to come over before I see him. Not sure what he wants from me. He says he loves and misses me but he always disappoints me. Before all this he was getting it every weekend and his work hours were crazy. Just an fyi.
- Should I stay with him?Vote A
- Move on?Vote B
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Sounds like you found yourself a guy who's equally good at playing chess ; )
Sex stops = relationship stops. If you want to bargain and play ball, then you better be prepared to play when he joins you on the field and ready to go. If you want to be passive aggressive with him, and you see that he knows how to play this game and make you suffer two-fold as you hold out, then don't complain about it. You wanted him to cave, he didn't, next move is to cut the BS and COMMUNICATE.
Nobody said that guys are "AFRAID" to commit. We just don't want to. Why are you afraid to eat sh*t by the bucket? Or, why are you "afraid" to do XYZ? It's a loaded question that presupposed that you are afraid. Maybe you just don't want to. That's like a high school boy asking a high school girl, "ugh, why are you so 'afraid' to suck my c*ck?" Guys just don't want commitment. MEN DO NOT GAIN ANYTHING from commitment.
So, to try and "CREATE" some "ARTIFICIAL" gain or benefit from men, girls hold out some benefits if there is NO COMMITMENT, and only allow for those benefits to flow through if and only if there IS COMMITMENT. In response, men give you the metaphorical finger, tell you to go fcuk yourself, and just let time elapse as you grow older, and your alternatives get less and less valuable by the day.
This is a "LOSING" game for you. The game is designed for you to lose. Your only shot is to find a "STUPID" guy that "DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO PLAY," and genuinely "believes" you and "trusts" you when you throw emotional manipulation around like "love" and "marriage" and "commitment" etc. When you come across a guy who knows how to play the game of life, why on earth would he ever commit? What is he "actually gaining" from commitment with you?
As someone who handles divorces, I'll go a step further and say, for as long as marriage permits divorce and isn't sanctioned slavery, even marriage isn't a real commitment. All relationships are completely "voluntary."0