I recently met a guy and we would talk every day through out the day. But after we had sex I noticed that I hear from him less. I asked him was everything ok one day and he said that he was sorry that he hasn't been talking much, he said he had a lot on his mind and had been busy but he still had me on his mind. I really like him a lot and I want more with him. I would like a relationship with him. He told me that he wants something real and he's interested but I don't know I just feel paranoid that he could possibly be using me for sex. I look at people's actions and as soon as they start acting a little different I start to become paranoid. Is he using me for sex? What should I do?
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Many times with Today's toms I have found them to be sporadic, unpredictable And whenever scared or feel cornered----Hurry Quickly back into the murky waters from which they come from, sometimes disappearing altogether or 'Acting a little different' After the fact. This bird is no exception to my golden goose rule, sweetie.
Everything was hunky Dorey until you both went in between the sheets and now he is feeling unsure of everything, a bit nervous and jerky that you 'Want more' In this Relationship and he doesn't know how to handle it nor most likely tell you. He is most likely 'Wants something real,' however, his Only 'Interests' are Not getting hooked at the hip at this time. This is why the Closed caption lame duck excuses with you. I see Raised red flag signs that he is Not Into what you want which is-----Would like a relationship with him. And whether you have or have not told him This, doesn't take a rocket scientist in his book to See his own 'Signs' what you want.
Don't contact him anymore until you have heard from him. And if he wants to get together then you need to tell him face to face that you both may have gotten off on the wrong foot here, that things may have been going too fast, and you would like a chance to start over, go slower, and at this time right now, it's best to not be bedfellows.
Of course if you never hear hide nor have of him, this will be a lesson in love to have learned about keeping a guy Interested Longer by 'Talking every day' and when 'Talking' Together Up front and more personal, keeping it lite and semi sweet until Knowing him longer and much better.
Good luck. xx0
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