Hey everyone , so yesterday my boyfriend told me that he feels like he is losing me because we don't see each other a lot although we were toghether last week... he also said that he wants to see me everyday and that he can't stand staying away from me... But my parents are so protecive and they let me go out with my friends once every one or two months... i dont know what to do i am really desperate.. i adore my guy and i dont want to loose him... any help please?
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Simple. As kyour parents if they are doing it for your own good.
If they answer yes, it's time to seriously guilt trip them.
is this bad? Personally i owuldn't give a fuck about that. You're old enough to take care of yourselves, and it sounds like your parents are limiting your social activity.
Some tips you can use to do this.
* If they admit they do it for your own good, ask them how reducing and negatively affecting your social skills, preventing you from seeing friends and thus establishing contacts that will be valuable in adult life, AND preventing you from finding someone you want to share your life with can count as YOUR OWN BEST.
* Ask them if they consider you an adult. IF they say "no" tell them to look again at your age and tell you what they see. If they still say no, your parents need a SERIOUS wakeup call. If they now admit you're an adult, ask them why they're treating you like a child.
* point out to them how they're limiting your social interreaction, and provide documented facts that a lack of social interreaction reduce social skills, which again puts you at a disadvantage throughout large parts of your adult life. (i know this is right, but i only got sources in norwegian so i'm afraid you'll have to find them on your own. sorry)
is this pure evil? no, it's pure manipulation. Should you feel bad for this? in most cases, yes , but seeing as how your own family seems to be using the same game to limit your social interreaction.
Just an FIY: if they are actually preventing you from going, while you're an adult, it's enough to get a trial on them if you absolutely have to (at least in most western worlds).
Make them stop seeing you as their child, but rather as a grown up person.0
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