I am little confused about online dating. I have recently started using Okcupid due to moving to a new area. I have tried to look up the "rules" for online dating (I know, it sounds silly) but I am still a little confused.
I understand you find someone interesting and you start talking or someone starts talking to you. Send some messages back and forth, then exchange numbers, meet up, and so on. But what happens after the first date? Is it normal to be dating more than one person at a time? How do you go from dating to a committed relationship? If you only want to date and not be committed, how do you tell someone that without coming off as harsh?
Background: My shortest relationship was 2-years and I have been in three relationships. So I am accustom to either being single and enjoying being alone or focused on only one guy. I feel like a puppy that has no idea what is going on. Just want other people's views on how to handle online dating.
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There aren't any rules. You just have to talk about this with the other person. A lot of people take advantage of people like you that don't know how to interpret dating online. If you don't discuss whether or not you are still seeing other people then, there is a good chance that the other person still is, and is hoping you don't know about it. That way you will be faithful, while they continue to look. Then they will claim they never promised to be exclusive, and they will be right.
Iron_man is right about a lot of the women on those sites, and what you need to understand is that there are a lot of guys on the sites that are just as bad. There are so many people on there trying to use one another, that you have to protect yourself, and part of that is asking if they are still planning on dating other people. At least that way you don't end up blaming yourself for not asking, if later you do find out they are dating someone else after you become emotionally invested.0