my looks are bad: small butt and boobs and i am a very awkward person and shy. how can i get a guy to like me? i just feel like i dont deserve love :(
we were chatting and flirting and i saw he liked a girl's with big ass photos and i started crying
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First of all, don't beat yourself up so much... love isn't as superficial as you are making it sound. We only think it's superficial because we first judge people on how they look... and that's because that's all we have to work with, until we get to KNOW someone. Love isn't about looks, it's about feelings.
And attraction isn't about logic, it's about emotions and feelings.
So if you want a guy to find you attractive, and you think you're not physically attractive, then you have to work with what you got. We guys have the same issues, you're not alone in this!
Your focus needs to be on how you make these guys FEEL when they're with you. If they have fun and feel comfortable, they'll want to see more of you. If they feel awkward or bored, they won't.
And how do we make someone else FEEL a certain way?
We infect them with how WE feel.
How you feel is how others will feel when they are with you. Our emotions are contagious.
So if you feel awkward or sad or desperate or angry or whatever, then they will pickup your vibe and will either push you away emotionally, or will avoid you.
But if you feel happy within yourself, centred and full of love and joy, then you will express those emotions through your face and body language. And others will be attracted to you.
So your focus should be on YOU. How you think about yourself and how you TALK to yourself, in your own head.
The relationship you develop with YOURSELF is the foundation of all other relationships you have with everyone else.
Don't know how to improve your inner confidence or self esteem or love? Ask a professional. Ask your smartest older girlfriends. Ask others who seem happy. And do what they do.
The love and support you develop for yourself is what will make you feel excited to meet people, instead of shy, because you will no longer be concerned with their opinions of you.. because you'll have your own opinions already!