I've been seeing my boyfriend for the past three months now. I'm 23 years old and still a virgin. My bf (or maybe ex now.. i'm still not sure) has previously wanted me to come over and sleep the night at his place. However, as I come from a conservative background and still live at home, I have previously explained to him that this is not possible for me. I wouldn't want to disrespect my mom, who I hold very dear.
Anyway, when we were texting yesterday my bf got mad at me for always having to ask my mom for permission to do certain things and said that he wasn't sure whether he wanted to 'push' himself or me.
He said the following to me in our last text message, which has confused me quite a bit.
"I have to think well of all these things because i wouldn't like to say that I'm fine with everything and after some time change my mind and hurt you and feel ashamed of myself.. i care about you, you know that, right?"
I then said that if that was what he wanted, then I wished him all the best.
He didn't reply back to my message, but I saw that he came online several times. Even today, he has come online but not written to me.
So has my 'bf' now become my ex or is he thinking things through? The fact, that he didn't reply to my message has left me extremely confused.
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The moral values a girl holds dear to here are more important and are of higher priority than the physical values a boyfriend might have that he says comes first. Whenever a guy is in a relationship for the purpose of obtaining sex, it'll almost always have a bad ending. If you were okay with it then that'd be a different story. Don't fall victim to the storyline that if we don't have sex then I'm leaving. The best thing to do is let him go and find a girl that's ok with having sex right off. The truth of the matter is that having sex is reserved for married couples. The fact that so many couple have sex as soon as they start going together doesn't make it right or the best thing to do. Follow your heart and to what you think is right. That's what will make you the happiest. I'd say he moved on but he may still come back. You're just fine with respecting the way you were brought up and listening to your mom. The ultimate decision is up to you. Good luck!2