The other night my girlfriend came over and she just seemed off. Eventually she told that her teacher has been sexually harassing her and touching her inappropriately. She obviously didn't enjoy it, because when she told me she kept crying and apologizing. Eventually she left after I calmed her down but I'm fucking furious. She said she doesn't want me to tell anyone because she's afraid it will ruin her grades, but what am I supposed to do. If she hadn't asked me to not say anything I would have kicked his ass by now! I just want to kill him! But I can't! Anyways if she doesn't want to me tell (and I can't kill him obviously), them what can I do. I don't want to just leave her with him, because who knows what he'll try to do. But I need to do something. Just how do I help her?
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Sexual harassment is really serious, especially in a learning environment when a teacher you're supposed to trust is the one harassing you, and obviously your girlfriend is extremely distressed by it.
Firstly, I just want to say that I'm really pleased that you're not even entertaining the thought that maybe she did something to bring this on herself and I have to stress that the most important thing for you to do is support her and let her know that you're totally on her side and that you don't blame her at all. Your support in this is going to mean a lot to her.
Secondly, I think you're right about being concerned about what he might try next. Obviously your girlfriend doesn't want any of this to harm her grades by letting anyone know that she's told you, so I think it's probably best to avoid doing anything that can be traced back directly to her/to you.
If I was in your position, I'd go to the counselor/nurse/whoever managed student relations in your school/university. There's usually someone who you can take any problems with other students or members of staff to in the building. If you can't think of who it is then I suggest asking at reception and asking to make an appointment to see them.
When you see them, then the first thing you should do is ask that this remain confidential and anonymous. That's important to your girlfriend and it should be important to you too - but you have to balance that out with her safety, which is obviously the most important aspect in this.
You could ask that if this is dealt with, it simply be made known that a fellow student has seen the inappropriate advances this teacher makes on his students and were concerned about it. He's likely doing this to more girls than just your girlfriend, so the chances are that this can't be linked back to her and even if it can, he still has no way of knowing who brought the issue to the school.
If you need any more advice then feel free to ask or message me <31