I was talking to this guy, he originally messaged me. We talked online then texted for a week until we met for dinner. He had to reschedule the original dinner as he had to work late the first evening. So we meet the next evening. It went great! We texted after, he said how interested he is, how much he's looking forward to getting to know me. We both have good jobs, stable lives. I do have 2 small kids though... I am 26 and he is 30. We actually have a mutual friend and let's say... I'm not only a saint but the catch of the century compared to his ex girlfriend. He worked a little later yesterday so canceled our plans and we have them rescheduled for today. Thing is I always text him. He always responds. Uses lots of !!! And :-) ;-). But it's me iniating the conversation. Is this a guy thing? Is the chase gone now that he met me? If he cancels again should I move forward elsewhere. Is this how online dating works? How long do you wait to meet the person offline? Maybe we met to soon.
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It sounds like it is going well but don't think it's a perfect match until you've met a good amount of times and he's still around for a good few months.
Personally I meet ASAP and consider the girl too insecure if she can't meet fairly quickly. I've met girls the same day I have messaged them and found it to work a lot better. The problem with too much texting and messaging is it creates a fictional version of the guy you are hoping to meet and not the person himself. I've noticed people who message too much without meeting get let down when they find out they were messaging someone and the person turns out differently.
In texting you can edit texts and plan out what you want to say in advance where in person it's on the spot. His canceling sounds very legit. I've had girls make really BS reasons for canceling. Record cancel for me was a girl who canceled right as I was putting my shoes on with the excuse of her having to go to class which left me wondering "How the fuck does someone plan a date at the same time they have class?" I also had one decide to go to the movies with her dad and left me clueless as to what the plans are. Some even use medical excuses which make me wonder if they're telling the truth. As long as he actively makes an effort to keep in touch with you I wouldn't worry about it.
Overall I also suggest you wait for him to initiate a text as well. I do this to girls and they almost always lose touch with me and while that sounds like a bad thing, to me it just means I dodged someone who would take me for granted.2