How do you know if a guy just wants sex or its actually interested and willing to be in a relationship?
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Is he a player? What was his last relationship like? How many partners has he had? How long ago was his last relationship? How long do his relationships usually last? What are his friends like? Does he have girl friends who respect him? Can you ask her opinion about you two?
This is more controversial, but I think dating multiple people is the best way, they all start casually, and then they evolve naturally into either something more meaningful or less. No one is playing anyone because you are honest to your partners, and most importantly, to yourself. This approach kind of stops a player in his tracks, as long as you genuinely take that approach.
Also, start having sex because you like to have sex, not because you think it makes some obscure statement about virtue. You may feel that by having sex with someone you are giving something away, what ever that something is, and finding out that you got "played" makes that "loss" even harder, but sex should only be for your mutual pleasure. I think its the difference between saying "should I LET him have sex with me?" and "Do I want to have sex with him?" Do you see the difference? The second mentality gives you the power.1