We just started dating, and I had a flashback during sex, he didn't ask so I didn't tell. I thought of hiding it untill he asks, but I'm unstable right now and have been having them often. He's an innocent guy and was really scared when it happened the first time. I don't want to lie to him but I'm nervous that he'll see me differently.
- Tell him next time you have oneVote A
- Don't tell himVote B
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Absolutely or else he might misunderstand your reactions to him as possibly fickle or manipulative behavior when in fact they could be defence mechanisms or not understand that you have much higher barriers to overcome to put you in a state of comfort with regards to escalating things.
You don't have to go in full details but just explain some events in life have caused you to be in such a position.1