This guy asked me to be his gf about a week ago. But I'm unsure if that's what we really are... Cuz like we've never hugged and he makes no move of hugging me. We text some but idk..
The thing is at this point we don't see each other outside work cuz I'm a full time student and have a full time job thus I'm totally swamped. But he always asks when we're gonna hang out and if I missed him if I'm at work without him or vis versa. We flirt some and I can tell how much he like me just by the way he looks at me.
What makes me unsure is like when we're texting he doesn't use much punctuation and misspells things a lot like he doesn't care to take the time to proofread it. And sometimes he takes forever to respond. He hasn't ever hugged me or held my hand. Like I understand when we're working it's not the best time but maybe on break. Ever since we supposedly became a thing, he stopped asking me to take lunch with him choosing to hang with his buddy instead. Which is weird cuz I feel like if he really cared he'd wanna spend the time with me and would maybe actually show physical affection then... I don't know am I overthinking and expecting too much? Or is he playing me and we're not really bf/gf?
He's pretty confusing with his feelings so I was shocked when he randomly asked me to be his gf...
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I want to make a first statement very clear. You mentioned you are full time and work with this person. I would caution you to remain distant with him while at work, unless your company is fine with inner-workplace relationships. Work is not the place to hold hands or cuddle.
With that said, are you his first interest that became serious? He may be shy, try hugging him, reach out and take his hand. In this day and age women and men should be equal, it should not always be the man that has to make the first move. Though it should always be the woman either. It sounds to me like now that he has you, he is losing interest. Pull back a little, maybe mention your concerns. If he truly cares about you he will at least try to understand (Men can be hard to get through to sometimes!)
If texting is bothering you, don't text. Call him, text him to arrange a date, don't just solely text. You are not expecting too much, if I were your boyfriend I would take care in proofreading anything I would send you, just as I am proofreading this response to a complete stranger. Sometimes, different men have different levels of self awareness.
Every guy needs "alone time" and time to spend with his buddies, though you should come first, or at least be on an equal level with them. Honestly, with this case, I believe he may be being shy about the whole thing. He doesn't have an issue being with guy friends since he has no reason to be shy around them. The girl he has interest in however, BIG reason to be shy and nervous there. Just be patient with him, maybe take a little charge and reach out to him first, and try and distance your relations away from the workplace and moreover at home or at a public venue, it will be much more intimate that way- trust me. I wish you the best of luck with him, and if it doesn't work out, always remember there are always more guys out there!0