So there is this guy that I like, and he already knows that I am interested in him. We have been texting each other for a few weeks, and have occasionally hung out. I am freaked out, because in the past I was played and have never been able to shake the feeling that every guy I'll meet is going to mess with me. I've been doing my best to have a life outside of this guy, cause I'm afraid I'll freak him out. He seems to be really nice and sincere, the total good guy nerdy type, which is what I like, but I am still afraid. I can't shake this fear. I am terribly shy around him. I once asked him if he was ok with me texting him first, and he said he didn't mind cause its nice knowing that someone is interested in him. But I am afraid to cause I am afraid that maybe he is just being polite about it. I am so freaking confused and have decided to tone down the texting, but am still scared that he will pull a disappearing act just like the first one did.
I'm afraid that I came on too strongly?
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Many of today's toms are sporadic, unpredictable And------Grow cold duck feet whenever cornered or feeling scared, running back into the murky waters from which they came, sometimes Even----Disappearing.
Go slow with the flow, potterh. At the moment, feeling as uneasy and insecure as you do from the 'disappearing acts' that that were performed on you in the past, you need to start letting your guard down when you feel it is safe to come back out of the water yourself. And the worse thing is if he sees how you are acting, even Mentioning anything of this nature, this also make him feel as nervous a s a cat on a hot tin roof. This will in turn never make two birds of a feather who may want to stick together.
Getting to know one another is a good way to slowly nurture and nurse even a friendship that is blooming. This is what I believe you should Think of this as of... at least right now. And when you and him have gotten to a point where it is going down another road, not a beaten path, then perhaps that would be the time to start to sow the seeds that then can be reaped for a real romance.
For now, don't overthink anything. Open lines of communication is one of the most important factors in any new or old relationship. Don't be afraid to open up at least some. Let him see a little of who you are and what you are all about.
If it is meant for old Mother Nature to plant a paradise, then it will surely happen when you even least expect it.
Good luck. xx0
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