I have no problem getting dates with women. I've actually been out on dates with quite a few attractive women. My problem is never getting second dates or having them lose interest. That's because I hold back who I really am during dates, so I believe.
When I'm on dates, I'm the perfect gentlemen. I dress nice, smell good, drive my date to the location, talk to them, make them laugh, pay for everything and then take them home. While, I love being a good guy on dates and being very respectful... that's only half of who I really am.
I'm a sexual person... but I have a hard time conveying my sexual nature to women. I don't want to come off as too touchy feely, rapey or perverted... lol. When I'm on dates with women, a part of me wants to hold their waist while we are walking, hold their hand, put my arm around their shoulder during movies, kiss them under a romantic setting and maybe smack their behind after XD... and then drop them back off at their place and go on a 2nd date eventually. Unfortunately... if I do anything of these things... I feel like a sleezeball, so I don't make any intention of touching a woman during the dates I go on.
Am I wrong for holding back during the date? Am I right for being too respectful and not doing any of those things during the date?
Because I hold back with women, I am still a virgin, never properly kissed a girl and have only hugged women and that's it :/.
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Don't hold back! The best date I've ever been to was with a guy who told sexjokes, it was a great icebreaker actually and I laughed so hard. He was a perfect gentleman other than that though and we didn't even kiss until our third date. I'm still seeing him and everything is going great.
Chances are that she's holding back as well, and wouldn't it be much more comfortable if you were relaxed and could laugh at eachothers jokes and just have a good time? The way I see it is if she doesn't like you for you, she doesn't deserve you. So if you don't get a second date after being yourself it might be a good thing.
BUT don't overdo it. You can tell a sexjoke, hold her hand (which is really sweet btw) and so on, but the mainfocus should be on getting to know eachother and if you are looking for a relationship you might not only want to talk about sex as it probably seems like you are only interested in getting intoher pants. So stay a gentleman but be yourself, if that makes sense? :)0