So I asked this girl in my Japanese class that I really like out for coffee, and she said yes. She originally said she could do it soon, then had to cancel, but said we should reschedule. The last few days we talked some and had some short, funny phone conversations. Except for a few times though, I'm normally the one who initiates conversation. I really like her, but am starting to think she doesn't think of me as more than just a friend. What do you guys think?
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Hmmm. That's kinda tricky. But I think you still have a shot.
When I like a guy and I have a legitimate reason for canceling on him, I always make it a point to reschedule because I don't want him to think I'm bailing on the date. And there's honestly no way that it would just slip my mind. If you're interested in someone, it's constantly on your mind.
So my theory is one of two things. Either;
(A) She's not sure how she feels about you. She might be unsure whether or not she likes you as more than a friend. Basically If she's unsure of what she wants, that would explain why she's procrastinating about getting back to you about it. She might be buying herself time.
Or (B), Maybe she doesn't even realize it was a coffee "date". You said that you haven't had much time to flirt with her and make your intentions clear. Maybe she believes that you just intend to be her friend, so the coffee thing wouldn't even seem like a big deal. In that case it would make sense that rescheduling isn't her first priority.
So, as to what you should do. I don't think you should move on quite yet. How long has it been since the coffee thing? If it's been more than a couple weeks I think it's fine if you ask again. But maybe ask to grab a casual lunch instead so it doesn't seem like you're still stuck on the coffee thing.
Also, as a side note, do you know for a fact that she's not involved with anyone else? Have you guys talked about that sort of stuff?1