I really don't understand this. I went on a couple dates with this girl I work with. Thing is, she was cool but I really didn't pursue her at all. She came on to me. She would flirt a ton with me, she got my number to talk about "work related things" soon after that we were talking on the phone for hrs a night. After we went out said it would be better for us to be friends. Now she's still trying to flirt with me and all that stuff. I do like her for sure but my question is why would you seek someone out, be so aggressive, get them interested and then act like we should just be friends?
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I completely understand how you are feeling and don't ever think that you were messed up or rude for trying to cut him out like you did. You were simply protecting yourself from getting hurt. Sometimes when it comes to love its all or nothing and this "in between" stuff where he is treating you nice and basically treating you like his gf is very confusing and like you said very unsatisfactory to you. It sounds to me that he is having major commitment issues. Maybe he was in a previous relationship that was destroyed and now he is "traumatized." I am just predicting from what your story is. He is right, he isn't ready for a relationship if that is the case. If I were you, I will honestly not expect too much from him even though he is making you expect with his actions. His actions say that he wants you, but he is not mentally and emotionally committed yet. I'm telling you to do this so that you can also protect yourself, so you won't be the one who ends up getting hurt in the end. He said that he wants to "ask you out" or have a relationship with you soon. Don't take this too the heart and think "oh soon he will ask me soon" just go with the flow without expecting too much. And if everything seems to be cooling off from your last argument, then bring it up! Don't be afraid! Because you have the right to do this since he is showing affection and care for you. Approach in a calm and collected manner. Also, set up a time. You said you don't want to keep waiting forever. Set up a time limit for yourself and him. By the time you ask him about it again, if he isn't ready then stop and think... is it worth it? And then set up a time as you go at it. But remember DO NOT EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM HIM! Hope this helps!!