Been single for 2 years now and I have never dated because I married my HS sweetheart. I'm feeling ready but never ever meet guys. Was invited out for Halloween but didn't go as I was tired. I could have met people.
I always was flirted with and had fun when I was in a relationship because I went out with him. I liked the attention of course but never ever did anything nor did I want to.
But now I'm single. Not at all making connections. Never see any guys. I'm 30 soon. Feel like life is passing me by.
What should I do? I joined a meetup group but it only meets once to twice a month. Some nice people but still making baby steps, IF that.
I just want to experience some of the "single life"...
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You clearly have your life arranged as if you were already in a relationship and everything you need is at home. That might have been true when you were married, but now that you no longer are, you need to realize that you aren't going to meet anyone sitting on your couch at home - you've got to actually GO PLACES, and that may mean adjusting your lifestyle again. Maybe you need to change your sleep patterns or whatever, but you can't just not go out anywhere or not do anything because "you're tired."
You need to start by making (or choosing) 3 (hopefully single) friends who are completely unconnected to each other, and try to do something with each of them each week. The idea is to meet THEIR circles of friends and get to know them. After a while, you'll start getting invited to things from people in THEIR circles, and you meet second-level circles of friends (likely, you're at more than 100 people at this point). Keep expanding those circles until you start meeting the people you want to meet.
OR... if you insist on doing most of this from home, set up a QUALITY online profile on OKCupid, Match, eHarmony, etc., be very clear (but realistic) about what you want, and about what you DON'T want, and spend an hour a night reading and responding (asking questions) to the guys who respond. Use that to continue to refine your profile, being more and more specific.
Either way, YOU have to make an effort if you want to have a social life. It won't come to you on its own, especially if you let yourself put your social life as a low priority, such as not going to that Halloween party.0