My boyfriend proposed to me, but he can't afford a ring or the wedding so he wants to keep it a secret. He doesn't seem to realize how over time I have begun to feel like he isn't serious and my self-esteem has begun to plummet. He doesn't want me telling my parents or anyone at all. He tells me it is a pride issue for him and that he doesn't see any reason for me to be stressed about it. Now I not only feel hurt for having to keep the secret, but feel hurt that he doesn't think about how I feel about it. Am I a bad person for being tired of a happy moment becoming a stressful burden?
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You're not a bad person, neither is he, and neither of you are wrong or right either. I get why he wouldn't like people knowing he proposed to you without a ring, especially your parents, but I also get why you'd want to tell people.
Maybe ask him if you can just tell one or two very close friends? Your parents would be happier if he gave you a ring though, you know how parents always want certain things for their kids and think nothing is good enough sometimes.0