Ok to fill you in there is this gay cowerker of mine who has a crush on me. He approached me one day and asked me quite out of the blue if I am gay. I told him I am not which is true actually since I am bisexual, but I did not tell him I am bisexual. Since then he keept approaching me and asking this and that, and eventually he asked for my number. I did not want to hurt his feelings so I gave him my number which was a stuoid thing to do. He kept calling and calling and I did not answer hoping he would get the hint. Eventually he asked me at work why do I not answer, and I kind of dodged the question. He told me he has a crush on me and would like to take things further. I told him I needed to think about it and avoided him hoping again he will take the hint. He did not. The problems with him are the following. First he seems a queen in disguise. He has shaved scalp but otherwise is very soft spoken and quite smooth and shy. Second in terms of looks he is average to ugly. He is very plain and quite boring. He even seems a bit freakishly at times. He is not wealthy. He seems to be looking for sex only and keeps talking about his manhood which really freaks me out. His compliments are flattering but that's about it. And worse of all he has terrible teeth and I can not kiss a drain pipe. If he would keep on like that I would eventually snap and make a very insulting statement about his teeth which would hurt him deeply and I would not like to do that, So how can I turn him down softly and painlessly? And another aspect about myself is that I have an adrogynous beauty pretty much like Jaye Anderson which is not something most gay men look for. They usually look for rugged macho types. I also dress very unisex and pretty, again something a bit feminine that gay men frown upon. So why is he even attracted to me in the first place? And why does he insist seeing how much competition he has from the female coworkers who also flirt with and are better quality than him?
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You could just never let on that you're bi, or better yet, there's always the "I don't get involved with co-workers" excuse, which is actually a pretty solid principle anyway.0