So here's my dilemma, friends:
One of my best friends has a younger sister. He told me that she had a crush on me a little over a year ago. At that time I didn't really do anything with that information because I was scared of what it would mean if it went south (I'm SUPER close to the family).
Anyway, as this year has gone on, I've pretty much started to fall in love with her. I think about her all the time, and the time I get to spend with her is my favorite time.
She has a boyfriend now that she started dating in August. She told her brother that she's maybe even a little bored with him.
I was able to spend some time over there this weekend while my friend was home from New York, so it gave me an excuse to see her. On Sunday, she wasn't with her boyfriend, so she went on a long walk with her brother and I, and we all went to a movie. While we had some alone time that day, she was asking about a girl I was kind of seeing (who used to be a friend of hers), and she said that this other girl was only trying to date me because she knew how much M wanted me. She actually told me for the first time that she used to have a crush on me, and still kind of does. Then this morning we were messaging about soul mates, and she tells me she thinks she's met hers in this new boyfriend.
SO... how do I do this? I'm not the a-hole to try and break up a relationship, but I also totally believe I'm falling in love with her. I guess I'm looking for advice from any girls on what you think she's thinking/wanting. I fully know I could marry this girl, and be very happy. I already love her entire family, and know her pretty well. How is this so hard? ;)
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the hard bit consists of the fact she's sending mixed messages. she acts a tad jealous of this other girl, she talks about a crush on you, but then totally backs off by saying she found her soulmate.. in her actual boyfriend -.- if she's trying to make you jealous with that, that's pretty childish and lame. plus, who messages her brother's friend (aka possible crush) about 'soulmates', when they're taken? she might be planning her way out from that old relationship, but she probbaly wants to make sure she'll find a substitute first.. not a great deal of maturity, nor a guarantee of loyalty. not a great way of starting a relationship. you need to be sure she's single as you are, before considering the option of dating her. remember she's your best friend's sister, if it goes wrong they'll unleash the family dog. lol.1