Alright, so I consider myself nice, sometimes too nice. I have a lot of female friends but have only had one relationship in nearly 3 years. So, does the whole being nice thing ever help your case when you're looking to find someone to date and have fun with? I'd like any input on this.
- Yes (please explain)Vote A
- No (please explain)Vote B
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Interesting post, and I see a lot of these "nice guy" questions quite often. I will give you my humble opinion here.
The typical "nice guy" - This is the guy who lacks boundaries with women. He is too quick and willing to bend over backwards for almost any woman who will give him the time of day. He will pay for all kinds of expensive dates, buy flowers, text you really early in the AM thinking he is being nice and not creepy. He will pretty much do anything and everything a woman asks and more all the while thinking he is scoring points when in reality he is only sacrificing his masculinity and therefore a HUGE turnoff to most women. Basically the type of guy who will neuter himself and give his testicles to the woman for her to carry around in her purse. . And you will often find him asking questions here like "why do I keep getting friend zoned?"
Then you have the "asshole" - This guy was either once the "nice guy" who finally learned what he was doing was not working and is now over-compensating. Or the guy who has just figured out how to play the game to his advantage early on. And this one usually has a lot more luck (at least getting laid) than the "nice guy." This is because he is seen as far more challenging, more intriguing, more rare, and just far less of a pushover which almost just always kills attraction instantly.
Then you have the real winner - This guy is in fact a good person. He has morals, standards, ethics, and gives respect and offers privilege when it is earned and warranted and not just to anyone who gives him the time of day. Since he does possess these qualities, he sometimes get confused with the "asshole." And sometimes maybe even the "nice guy." But he knows who he is and does not let this define him.
In summary, being nice is not a bad thing. Except when you are being the "nice guy" in paragraph one. That guy is using "nice" as a tool and will be treated as such.
Anywhoo thats my perspective my friend, hope it helps !2
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